overseas2004 Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 Well it has been three months now since our break up. I have posted before and alot of you gave me really good advice. As you know I was living in Europe and my contract for work ran out a month after we broke up. I packed up all my things and moved home to the States yesterday. I had planned my departure about a month in advance and he called me once a month before i left and then he came over to see me. He kept insisting that he did not love me anymore during our meeting but he was kissing my hands and my hair and being really sweet. All of this spurred me to try to patch things up with him When I saw that he was waffling I just ended it ... I told him not to call me anymore. I told him I was dead for him. I also told him that he had to get therapy and I gave him the number of a therapist. If you remember from my last posts he has really bad anger outbursts and is impotent. Surprise surprise right before I left he decided to go to the therapist. His therapist told me he showed up for therapy and had consistently come to three meetings with her. I was happy that he was getting help. I still really care about him. But I did not call him before I left and he did not even call to say goodbye even though he knew exactly when I was leaving. All of this caused so much pain when I got on that plane yesterday. It hurts so much and I cried so hard almost the whole trip home. Luckily I was sitting alone. And now I am here in the States. An ocean away... a world away and it still hurts. Why does it hurt so much. It has been three months since we broke up and almost 1 month since i have even seen him or touched him. I did alot of this conciously so I could just run away. And now I find it is still here shadowing me.... Some advice please.....
iceprincess Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 Wow, you are so strong.........don't break now that you've got things to where you want them. Just hang in there a little longer....good luck. *hugs*
Just Visiting Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 Hey Overseas; You have done the best that you can in that situation. I know it hurts...just let all the feelings flow through you. You are a strong woman for leaving him. The healing path is a bumpy ride, take your time and take care of YOU. It is good that your ex is seeing a therapist...better late than never. Let's just hope for his sake that he sticks with it. Believe in yourself and have faith.
liesandmorelies Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 I have to do the exact same thing that you did, but have not made the final phonecall yet to break it off. He is from Mexico, and since he cannot get back into the country unless I marry him, I will never see him again. I am forcing myself to get out there and meet new people, to see that my bf is not the only person out there and that there are other decent men that I can meet and be compatible with. You need to find some old friends (or meet new ones), get dressed up and go out a few times. Once you start meeting new people, I think that you will start feeling good again (atleast that is what I hope, since I have to force myself to do the same). keep us posted.
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