simpsonic Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I was watching my Sex and the City DVDs the other night and in one of the episodes, Carrie's question was: Which has a better chance of survival? Sex without a relationship, or a relationship without sex? My thoughts are exactly what Carrie says in this episode: "Great sex is great, but I still like a song with a melody I can sing to." Your thoughts?
ShatteredReality Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 This is a tough question. I want to be the bigger person here and say a relationship without sex - because ultimately we're supposed to be happy with our partner and sex is secondary...but I don't believe I can honestly say I'd be ok in that type of situation. Sex is kinda huge for me. I need the passion involved, I need the closeness and the connection. I have a high sex drive and sometimes my H would be fine going w/out. Recently he told me he'd be fine with sex 2-3 times per month! I kind of gasped (it was an automatic reaction) and he chuckled and assured me he wouldn't do that to me. So, while sex isn't the MOST important thing in a relationship - I believe it's essential. It's right up there with respect, love, trust...all the must have's of a relationship. To each his own...but unfortunately, a relationship without sex isn't an option for this girl!
rafallus Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Relationship without sex will, without a shadow of a doubt, not work for me. Sex without relationship, in a limited timeframe.
zengirl Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I'm going to go with neither, as in I'd rather forego a relationship and sex if I cannot have them combined. To me, a relationship without sex would be a friendship, and I'm fine with that but I wouldn't be fine with marrying a friend or raising children with him. I'd be perpetually single instead.
Buck Turgidson Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I have lots of relationships-sans-sex. I call them "friendships," many of which have lasted decades.
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 (edited) Eh... if I had to pick one or the other... (and if the relationship without sex meant that I couldn't ever seek out a relationship with sex... friendship is something else) then I would say that, until I am an old ass, the sex without the relationship would last longer for me than the relationship without sex. I can love someone without being in a relationship with them... and I get could by with such a lover, whilst advancing in my other passions in life outside of the interpersonal... rather than into a relationship that didn't meet my sexual needs. Being sexually satisfied, for whatever reasons, motivates me to create more etc etc. Being in a relationship without that would just be draining and... I wouldn't be happy, thus they likely wouldn't be happy. Edited September 2, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall
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