Falling in love so soon?

[Lilmisus]

Tell me something people, how long do you think a couple should wait before they decide they're in love? How do you really know if it's love or infatuation, or do you not know until days, months, or years down the road?

 

As of the 29th, I have been officially dating Mr. Coworker (now just, boyfriend), after both of us realized just how hard it was for us to give me the space and time I said that I needed. All along for the past few weeks that we have been talking and getting to know one another, he's been telling me all the things that he loves about me, and how he was falling for me and whatnot. Well, two nights ago, he told me (after the most amazing date either of us had ever had) that he was scared because he had fallen for me, and I told him I had fallen for him too...since I've known for a little while now that I'm very much in love with him. He's one of my closest friends and he's honestly everything I ever hoped for in a guy (minus the fact that he is a young father, of course) and then some. He treats me like a princess and everyone loves seeing us together. I've never been as happy as I am right now, and it's due to being completely satisfied with who I am, where I am, and for having someone love everything about me (which is just the cherry on top of my happiness).

 

But...the only problem is, is that him and I have both told our best friends that we loved each other and only one of them is supportive of it and believes that we do. According to her, she knew how much I cared about him for a while and doesn't think that we're being dumb at all (even though everyone else, including us thinks that we are). While out with the girls last night, we of course got drunk and were talking with guys, and while doing so, my one friend encouraged me to flirt and find a guy who could be my "plan b" if things don't work out with my boyfriend. According to her, it's too soon to tell how things are going to be between him and I, and there are billions of people out there who could be my soul mate and I'm too young to think he might be (Before anyone asks, that's not the same friend who is cheating on her fiance). Of course, I didn't do anything at all, and talked to him the entire time via text.

 

I understand exactly where our friends are coming from in saying it's too soon, since I never thought I'd be the girl claiming to be in love this soon (after a year together, I never even told my ex, even though he did tell me a couple times), but like I told him, I know how I feel and I'm not afraid to say it..even though I am scared of feeling this strongly so soon. Especially when you throw on top of there that this will soon be a LDR since he just reenlisted into the marines yesterday.

 

What do you guys think? I know I've heard a million times "when you're in love, you just know" and that's how I feel right now...but like I said, I'm really scared and somewhat unsure regardless.

[bluenightowl]

Tell me something people, how long do you think a couple should wait before they decide they're in love? How do you really know if it's love or infatuation, or do you not know until days, months, or years down the road?

 

As of the 29th, I have been officially dating Mr. Coworker (now just, boyfriend), after both of us realized just how hard it was for us to give me the space and time I said that I needed. All along for the past few weeks that we have been talking and getting to know one another, he's been telling me all the things that he loves about me, and how he was falling for me and whatnot. Well, two nights ago, he told me (after the most amazing date either of us had ever had) that he was scared because he had fallen for me, and I told him I had fallen for him too...since I've known for a little while now that I'm very much in love with him. He's one of my closest friends and he's honestly everything I ever hoped for in a guy (minus the fact that he is a young father, of course) and then some. He treats me like a princess and everyone loves seeing us together. I've never been as happy as I am right now, and it's due to being completely satisfied with who I am, where I am, and for having someone love everything about me (which is just the cherry on top of my happiness).

 

But...the only problem is, is that him and I have both told our best friends that we loved each other and only one of them is supportive of it and believes that we do. According to her, she knew how much I cared about him for a while and doesn't think that we're being dumb at all (even though everyone else, including us thinks that we are). While out with the girls last night, we of course got drunk and were talking with guys, and while doing so, my one friend encouraged me to flirt and find a guy who could be my "plan b" if things don't work out with my boyfriend. According to her, it's too soon to tell how things are going to be between him and I, and there are billions of people out there who could be my soul mate and I'm too young to think he might be (Before anyone asks, that's not the same friend who is cheating on her fiance). Of course, I didn't do anything at all, and talked to him the entire time via text.

 

I understand exactly where our friends are coming from in saying it's too soon, since I never thought I'd be the girl claiming to be in love this soon (after a year together, I never even told my ex, even though he did tell me a couple times), but like I told him, I know how I feel and I'm not afraid to say it..even though I am scared of feeling this strongly so soon. Especially when you throw on top of there that this will soon be a LDR since he just reenlisted into the marines yesterday.

 

What do you guys think? I know I've heard a million times "when you're in love, you just know" and that's how I feel right now...but like I said, I'm really scared and somewhat unsure regardless.

 

This sounds great to me. You both know each other well, so its not like you are starting from zero. As well you both have expressed similar feelings towards each other. You seem very healthy in other aspects of your life.

 

Sure this could burn out, but so can marriages, so I wouldn't worry to much about the negative possibilities. Maybe you hit the jackpot of love where you both fell in love at the same time.

[EasyHeart]

You're just crushing. Dating someone is very different from working with them.

 

Check back with us in three months or so. Then we'll know if love has anything to do with it.