Why is my ex acting like a stranger?

[babyblue87]

I met my ex when I was 16, and he was 21. I was a junior in high school, and he had dropped out of school to support himself. A couple months later, I moved in with him. I went to school while he works to pay the bills. We lived in an apartment, with no hot water, shared a twin size bed, and collecting coins to buy grocery. Then when I got a job, we moved into a much nicer place. So as you can tell, we went from having NOTHING to EVERYTHING together. We built our lives together from scratch.

 

But being so young, we were constantly fighting. I always had problems with him going out with his friends. I couldn't join them because I was much younger than he was. We were constantly on-off-on-off for 5 years. Looking back, I was the one to blame for because I was insecure with myself. And I always pick fight when he wants to go out. He actually stopped going out for while because of our fights, his friends distance themselves from him because they didn't like me and my harassing phone calls to them, and when I realized what I was doing to him, I told it was okay to be with his friends. Of course, that didn't lasted for to long. Our fights happened almost everyday. I was known as "the psycho girlfriend".

 

It finally ended when I found out he took a girl he met at work to go out with a bunch of his friends. He didn't invite me because we were fighting at the time. Later on, I found out the girl has a boyfriend and she was new in town. But I felt like he was being unfair and disrespected me by doing so. I understand we were fighting, but it's not right for him to take another girl out without telling me. I found it out when I checked his phone calls. It was a bad breakup. I kicked him out of the house we were sharing. He went to stayed at my parent's house, I also made them kicked him out. If he needs a place to stay, then he should call all of his FRIENDS and ask them for a favor.

 

I was miserable. I was a body with no soul. I overdosed myself with OTC drugs, lost so much weight, and I quitted my job. Within 2 weeks, he found a new place to himself. He was out partying with his friends. I, on the hand, was struggling to live or to stay alive. I asked him to moved back in with me. But he told me, "I can't. My friends are not comfortable to come over while you're there. This has been going on for too long. I PROMISE WE WILL STILL BE FRIEND" Those exact words completely changed my mind. 5 years of being together, and his friends were more important? This was the ended of it.

 

We broke up for 2 months, and I did the NC for 1 month with him. Then I met someone on MySpace. And we began dating. Of course, he was my rebound. But my new boyfriend was the "push" I needed. I moved back with my parents, and introduced my new boyfriend to them. Everyone knew that I was trying to get over my ex. At a community event, I brought my boyfriend as my date. Ever since that night, my ex completely ignored me when he saw us.

 

3 years later, I am now with someone else (not with the rebound guy). And he treats me like a queen. He puts up with my attitudes, he's very handsome, everybody adores him, he takes care of me, and he is very friendly. He is completely opposite from my ex. Sometimes, I wonder how the heck did I got so lucky?

 

But the thing is, my ex is constantly on my mind. I bumped into him once a while. But we never talked to each other (not since the community event 3 years ago). If he sees me coming from one direction, he'd turn the other way. From what I heard, he hasn't had a "real" relationship ever since we broke up 3 years ago. He dated this girl from out of town, but it didn't worked because she was always out with her friends and he was always calling. Karma? Maybe. And also, every girls he talked to, he rushed into having a relationship with them. Until this day, he is still single.

 

My question, why is my ex acting this way? 3 years ago, he didn't want to be with me, and he promised to stay friends. But after I got with my "rebound" he has not spoke to me. Not even a "hi". Once a while, I texted to see how's he doing, no response. He is still very close to my family. He picks up my nephew from school almost everyday. The thing is, he is now a friend of my "rebound" guy and sometime he said, "hi" to my current boyfriend also. He talks to almost everyone in my life, except ME. I miss what we used to be, and because we had a history together, he will always be a part of my life. Yes, I still love him. I don't get butterflies in my stomach anymore, but I know for a fact that I really love him. I should stop because I am in a relationship with one of best guy in the world.

 

But seriously, why is my ex acting this way? It has been too long since our breakup.

[CaliBabe]

My intentions are not to sound mean or anything... But your ex does not owe you a single thing. If he wants to act this way he certainly can and has the right to. You can't expect him to treat you the way you are expecting as everyone has freewill.