HeartBreak11 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 A little of a dilemma, 5 months NC, having good days now. I recently found out that my ex's mother was in the hospital for surgery (could of been life threatening but now is recovering), I obviously didn't know about this until a mutual friend brought this to my attention. My question is, being the Dumpee, would you reach out ? I have already decided I am not going to call or text, it will be a very short email. I know I am doing it for the right reasons but i fear anything that could set me back at this point. I ponder this because NC is suppose to be all about ones self. Thoughts, potential responses, etc.
Nohbody Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 This is a hairy situation. I won't say you shouldn't... but I will say that you should be prepared for the absolute worst reaction possible - to include no reaction at all. No good deed goes unpunished.
ConfusedT Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 this is a very TOUGH situation. Were you close to the mother, if so, don't contact your ex- send a card to the mom. if you weren't, i think the dynamics of your relationship, the breakup, your recovery/healing, relationship with the family, etc. all has to be taken into account. In my situation, I would go directly to mom because i am close with her, i would say NOTHING to him at all. If anyone in his family passed, i wouldn't care if i was 1 hour NC, i would text him to apologize because that is who I am & i have empathy & compassion even though he had none for me. i've always been like that though.
Author HeartBreak11 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Well, somethings are more important than two people not working out, it was a 2+ year relationship so I decided to leave a voice mail (Much more appropiate than email or text), I feel it was the right thing to do, I don't expect but am prepared for any kind of contact. I hope this doesn't set me back.
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