LoveSickGuy911 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Well guys I have to say I do in fact feel a lot better than I did on Monday. I no longer feel sick to my stomach all day and it's easier to get through work. Do I still want my ex back? Yes. Do I still feel betrayed? Yes. Do I still feel a piece of me is missing? Yes. It's just it doesn't feel as strongly as the beginning of the week. I have not initiated contact since monday. She initiated contact on wednesday for chit chat then I still NC her on thursday. Today i'm going to invite her to do something tonight, something casual, like "hey you feel like playing pool tonight?" or "feel like going out of town tonight?" or something like that. If she declines I will casual say something like "oh alright cool maybe some other time" then that is it, NC at all. If she contacts me again after that will, but I will never initiate contact again.
ConfusedT Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Well guys I have to say I do in fact feel a lot better than I did on Monday. I no longer feel sick to my stomach all day and it's easier to get through work. Do I still want my ex back? Yes. Do I still feel betrayed? Yes. Do I still feel a piece of me is missing? Yes. It's just it doesn't feel as strongly as the beginning of the week. I have not initiated contact since monday. She initiated contact on wednesday for chit chat then I still NC her on thursday. Today i'm going to invite her to do something tonight, something casual, like "hey you feel like playing pool tonight?" or "feel like going out of town tonight?" or something like that. If she declines I will casual say something like "oh alright cool maybe some other time" then that is it, NC at all. If she contacts me again after that will, but I will never initiate contact again. DO NOT INITIATE ANYTHING!!! stay NC for yourself, you are going to open up a wound again. It will get better, but it wont if you dont let it!!!
Author LoveSickGuy911 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 DO NOT INITIATE ANYTHING!!! stay NC for yourself, you are going to open up a wound again. It will get better, but it wont if you dont let it!!! Don't worry, if she declines yes it will hurt a little but it won't be that bad. I'm expecting her to decline anyway, I just wanted to give it one more last chance before I go full blown NC mode, just so I can say I tried to put in a legitimate effort to get her bad. If she doesn't want to meet up this time I'm throwing in the towel permanently.
ConfusedT Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 ohh, im sorry honey. i disagree, but you have to do what you think is best. hanging out with her, even if she agrees, is just prolonging the inevitable and is going to cause you to go steps back instead of progress. you don't want to be where you were before, so try to stop yourself from making the same mistake again and expecting something different to occur.
Johnny85 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 ConfusedT is absolutely correct - Approaching her and being met with rejection will only lead to disappointment and make you feel all of those negative emotions you felt at the beginning of the breakup.
Author LoveSickGuy911 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 I understand, but this is something I need to do for closure.
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 i support you mate. as long as you have looked at it logically.. seems like you will more than likely be banging your head against the wall so to speak. but if it gives you inner closure then so be it! just dont beat yourself up about it after
Author LoveSickGuy911 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Well... I sent her the text about 4 hours ago and have not heard from here. She never ignores me and usually responds to my text in 1-2 hours or so. Looks like she may be choosing to ignore me this time. Oh well, I guess it's finally time to close the book on her.
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 what did you say? something casual/? well obviously its different now, as you are not together, so she may be thinking and choosing wisely whether or not to reply. please don't wait. focus on moving forward? at least you reached out. that is one thing i dont have the balls to do at this point, but its because i am listening to my logic and the facts put out in front of me. i will not let my emotions cry out for help to her. nah ah.
Author LoveSickGuy911 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Well she finally replied, gave some lame excuse about having to wake up early in the morning for work (which she had no problem with only a few months ago). I just casually told her alright maybe some other time and left it at that. Full NC now unless I hear from her first. I guess this is the final conclusion of the relationship. It blows, I wish it could of been different, but oh well. The ball was in her court.
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 thats right mate. i like that. the ball is in her court, just like its in my ex's court. it gives me a reason to move on and settle my mind its not my problem to pick the ball up anymore. its funny how you predicted what would happen if you were to break the nc. and looks like you know you wont hear from her now either... sorry man x
Author LoveSickGuy911 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 thats right mate. i like that. the ball is in her court, just like its in my ex's court. it gives me a reason to move on and settle my mind its not my problem to pick the ball up anymore. its funny how you predicted what would happen if you were to break the nc. and looks like you know you wont hear from her now either... sorry man x Yeah, its just one of those things where I know whats going to happen but I have to go through the motions to move on. I'm going to NC her but she will probably sent me a text message every now and then. I'll just probably never hang out with her again nor am I ever going to initiate contact or ask to hang out.
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 well its up to you at the end of the day. if you want to be friends, maybe once you are over her you can be? when relationships end nc doesnt have to be forever. you dont "have" to never see or speak to them again. more than likely you just wont want to or feel the need. so true. i have a few ex's like this. i have on fb, just never talk to them. and one of them that screwed me at the time actually turned out to be a really nice girl. and she stays in contact with me. ages ago, she admitted that i was an amazing guy. when she saw me with my now ex, she would tell me how she is a lucky girl to have me. sweet
Author LoveSickGuy911 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Ok there was a misunderstanding and we're going out of town tomorrow... But she seems extremely unenthusiastic... To the point where I dont know why she agreed. And no, I didn't pressure her, she suggested it herself. I actually feel worse now. I wish she would of just said no if she didn't want to go...
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