janbaz Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 (edited) Hi friends, need your advice. We work on same place. She has made very hard to get. She dated another guy. Even when we were in. She ignored to meet me and nevr talked me in person. We never to any diner. Coz she denied to go out (i feel bad on it ). That guy left country. I thought that i got chance. But i was big wrong. This story spans on two years. I go on silence many times. And two times i go back to her. Coz its me who need her. But things didnt work. She ignores me a lot. And i dont see any importance of mine in her life. She is my first. Um 26 she is 23. 17 days back i went on NC. In these days there was her birthday. I didnt wished her. She sent some emotional quotes two time on text but i didnt replied. When she noticed no wish from mine. Two days back she texted me that how um doing and my family and i started replying her. Very short. But from my texts it was looking that there is still something. I dint know if she felt the same. While noticing tht um not replying proper she askes me that whether um busy. And i said yes... Um with family. She replied ok have fun. And after some time out of blue i sent her a message "eat a lot and get fat :p" coz she is very slim and i used to make joke on her tht u get fat a bit to look more beautiful. She knows the bkground of that text too. Any how after 2 hours she replied "hey buddy yeah i hv eaten alot that i cant move". Thinking that as i didnt wished her birthdy she replied tht same way she used to be. I dont know whts that mean. Coz i ignored her bday. And on those days there was NC btw us. And she might realize it. That her absense in my life caused this. Now after this i start thinking about her again . Just getting the temptation that she will text me again. But i dnt wanted coz she didnt value my time n feelings. Tell me... How much this conversation has effected my NC spirit. I know um doing NC for me not for her. I want to build my respect and a life without her thoughts. I am on NC again. And will remain. Her contact made me week to reply her i dont want to show my self that i am desparate. Do you guys think i showed her that um desperate. Or she taken up the feelings that i m getting stronger emotionally. Um bit upset that I broke my NC. All day I spent being silent. Not taking interest in any thing. Just due to that she tested the waters. And I was not supposed to entertain her more. I dont know whether I am over exagerating it. I appreciate your help and suggestions. Edited September 2, 2011 by janbaz
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 hey mate, sounds like you care a lot about this girl, hence why nc is hard. but you are right for doing it for you as you said. she probably had too much fun on her birthday to really worry wether you wished her happy birthday or not.. you said yourself "But i dnt wanted coz she didnt value my time n feelings." why do you need to be with anyone who treats you such a way? its not right. i think you need to remain NC, she obviously doesnt care as much as you do, hence why you are reading into what she says or doesnt say too much. just keep busy and move on. its hard breaking up and becoming distant with someone you loved. but it happens, its life, you have to take control of your actions now. you dont need to worry about her. she will do what she wants to do. you have to do what you want to do
Author janbaz Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 hey mate, sounds like you care a lot about this girl, hence why nc is hard. but you are right for doing it for you as you said. she probably had too much fun on her birthday to really worry wether you wished her happy birthday or not.. you said yourself "But i dnt wanted coz she didnt value my time n feelings." why do you need to be with anyone who treats you such a way? its not right. i think you need to remain NC, she obviously doesnt care as much as you do, hence why you are reading into what she says or doesnt say too much. just keep busy and move on. its hard breaking up and becoming distant with someone you loved. but it happens, its life, you have to take control of your actions now. you dont need to worry about her. she will do what she wants to do. you have to do what you want to do Thanks mate for help. Yes i will not bother. And will stick to myself. Thanks again.
Dblock10 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 thats ok, if you need to talk then people are willing to listen and help. its good to have outside the box opinions.
Author janbaz Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 thats ok, if you need to talk then people are willing to listen and help. its good to have outside the box opinions. I know NC will take me away from her. But as we work on same place. I do avoid her making eye contact. Some time I think I should explicitly send her words that dont bother me again. If she ever text me again.
Author janbaz Posted September 4, 2011 Author Posted September 4, 2011 (edited) Today again, I sent her text that hows she doing today. And its been 5 hours. She didnt replied. As 2 days before she initiated contact after my 17 days NC. So I thought I should give a test that whether she come in convo or not. But it didnt work. . I guess now I should go on strict NC again and make her come to me. Do I have chance? Or I can make it? Edited September 4, 2011 by janbaz
taintted Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 I dont believe full blown ignoring her was the answer. from my under standing no contact basically means you dont contact them, but if they contact you your allowed to respond but keep it short and simple and act always busy. make them work for your attention.
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