bson1257 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 After looking through many online dating sites, I'm surprised at how many below average looking women there are. It seems like even someone as ugly as me could get a gf if I tried.
Buck Turgidson Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I'm guessing that would be about half of them. Whoa! Almost a majority!!
ascendotum Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Your're assuming below average looking women are signing up online to find their below average dream guy. Give it a go and see.
Author bson1257 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Your're assuming below average looking women are signing up online to find their below average dream guy. Give it a go and see. It shouldn't take them too long to realize they have unrealistic standards. Then I get my chance.
sarajean1984 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Lol....you may also be surprised at all the average looking women on there too. Attractiveness is totally in the eye of the beholder...anyone can become sexy and beautiful...with a little feeling for them.
Kamille Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Right, the problem is unrealistic expectations, not the fact that you secretly think the only way you can land women is if they feel desperate enough.
TigerCub Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Why does that surprise you? Walking around, I see a lot of unattractive people, so it would follow that some of those people are online trying to find a date. Its not like the general population is hot and the uglies came out of nowhere and found the net.
oaks Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 After looking through many online dating sites, I'm surprised at how many below average looking women there are. So no difference from a trip to the mall, then. Were you expecting everyone to look like they just stepped out of a lingerie photoshoot?
Imajerk17 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I'm guessing that would be about half of them. Whoa! Almost a majority!! I was going to guess 50%. Is that the same thing???
rafallus Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I was going to guess 50%. Is that the same thing??? And I thought it's 1/2. Man, so much conflicting information
carhill Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 After looking through many online dating sites, I'm surprised at how many below average looking women there are. It seems like even someone as ugly as me could get a gf if I tried. OP, as it is apparent you have other concerns, I would opine that it might be healthy to look at the totality, and accept that 'below average' women experience attraction completely differently than you do. The customary difference between how the genders 'approach' romance underscores this. One thing to be watchful for.... if you're essentially a 'good man', there are women who will want to fµck your mind, kinda like having a one night stand with your elemental emotions, much like a man sticks his penis in a woman for pure physical pleasure. 'Below average' women are not immune to this and, IME, it may be even more prevalent in the group. You can change your perspective regarding how you view women; an example would be seeing them all as 'equals' rather than on a sliding scale from hot to ugly and approach them in a commensurate manner. Get some female friends, and by that I mean good women, irrespective of hotness or ugliness, with whom you can connect on a platonic level and who proactively support and care for you. These women can become a road map to healthy choices in romantic partners. I recall opining in a recent thread that, by apparent LS standards, most of the couples I interact with would be considered (here) to be 'below average'. Good thing LS scales of attractiveness have little traction in the real world, as these people could become depressed about such important information. Fortunately, as with the rest of the billions of hot, above-average, average, below-average, and ugly people in the world, they're just out living their lives on this rock. Get moving and live yours. Good luck.
verhrzn Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Aw, it's so nice to know that guys will date even below-average girls because they figure those girls have the lowest standards. How romantic to think that I could be sitting across a table from a guy who thinks," Good thing she's ugly, I'll totally get laid tonight!" *Sparkle eyes*
carhill Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 OP, there's a good question for you in that.... You said: It seems like even someone as ugly as me could get a gf if I tried Have you ever had the thought: Good thing she's ugly, I'll totally get laid tonight! If so, what, if any, expression/action was impelled by it? What expressions/actions were noted in the other party? I'm underscoring this because how we think and feel, even if not acted on overtly, can affect how we appear and are sensed by others. Obviously, we have no control over their perceptions and feelings but we can recognize them and try different things. A recent respondent in your other thread, the one I linked to above, suggested an endocrinologist's input. I'll join that suggestion. Our bodies are chemical factories and, if something isn't in balance, it can affect many aspects of us, physically and psychologically. Worth a look, IMO. Good luck
Wolf18 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Lol....you may also be surprised at all the average looking women on there too. Attractiveness is totally in the eye of the beholder...anyone can become sexy and beautiful...with a little feeling for them. Yeah unless you're a man. Then all the chubbiness, shortness, and laziness men tolerate in a woman will put you in the friendzone.
sleepessinoh Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 After looking through many online dating sites, I'm surprised at how many below average looking women there are. It seems like even someone as ugly as me could get a gf if I tried. What you consider "below average" other men on those dating sites consider cute and awesome. Regarding what I bolded -You arent going to land them just because they are below your standard...they are exacty what someone is looking for
grkBoy Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Now I'm feeling guilty when I use terms like "ugly" or "hot" or even "average". "Pretty" is in the eye of the beholder. You would be surprised how many "ugly" people with good personalities, outgoing lifestyles, interests, stability, and heart find SO's. Their SO's may not be fashion models or the "pretty people", but they find someone who compliments them well. The ones whom I see failing are the ones with no self esteem, no social skills, their lives are a mess, and often they simply aren't fun or interesting. If anything, I see more "hot" people chronically single because "hot" is all they have going for themselves.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Below average to you may be hot to someone else. Widen your horizons.
rafallus Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Below average to you may be hot to someone else. Yes. Also, I never had any success with women I didn't consider attractive in any way. And I won't bother to try if I'll have it now. Essentially, they seem to pick up what you really think about them and get offended.
chphan Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 After looking through many online dating sites, I'm surprised at how many below average looking women there are. It seems like even someone as ugly as me could get a gf if I tried. Can't tell if this is serious but it sure made me laugh. lol.
madjac74 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 After looking through many online dating sites, I'm surprised at how many below average looking women there are. It seems like even someone as ugly as me could get a gf if I tried. Since you talk so boldly about the lack of good looking women then you should man up and show us your pic. Otherwise we just assume its another bitter frog angry because he cant get the princess to kiss him
Author bson1257 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 Since you talk so boldly about the lack of good looking women then you should man up and show us your pic. Otherwise we just assume its another bitter frog angry because he cant get the princess to kiss him I've already said I'm ugly. If I post my pic it may scar you for life.
madjac74 Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I've already said I'm ugly. If I post my pic it may scar you for life. I've been to Walmart so I've seen ugly! It doesn't phase me. But anyway if you are ugly then how can you knock women for being "below average looking"? Not that I disagree with your assessment of the women on online dating sites
PJKino Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 OP, as it is apparent you have other concerns, I would opine that it might be healthy to look at the totality, and accept that 'below average' women experience attraction completely differently than you do. The customary difference between how the genders 'approach' romance underscores this. . interesting can you expound on this to what exactly you think the differences are?
Afishwithabike Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I've been to Walmart so I've seen ugly! :laugh: So true. Walmart is a human zoo. You see all kinds of people there.
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