ex is "part of the family"

[TheMongoose]

My ex and i broke up over 3 years ago, yet he still comes to every thanksgiving, family reunion, christmas, etc.

 

We were together from the ages of 12-18 with little breaks in between so i understand that hes been around for awhile.

 

In the last year were finally on good terms, i no longer hate him. Hes also brings his gf, the one he left me for once in awhile to these things and my family thinks shes the greatest thing. kinda a slap in the face. Neways shes really not bad there great together and really happy.

 

The real problem is at this point is simply that ive been with my boyfriend now for 2 years. We have two kids(his with ex) and own a house together. My family like him but they dont treat him like they do the ex. Not to mention how he feels having my ex come to all these things.

 

Ive talked to my family about this but they refuse to listen. They say my boyfriend should understand that the ex is family and he's going to have to just get along with him and get used to having him in our lives. They compare this to me getting along with the kids mother! I just dont know what to do. It bothers him to the point that he doesnt even want to go to anything of my families anymore..

Edited September 2, 2011 by TheMongoose

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ugh, Mongoose! That just sucks! I would definitely feel betrayed if my family opened their arms not only to someone who left me, but to the person they left me for. Regardless of history. I wish they considered your feelings and made you their priority. Ouch.

[TheMongoose]

I even stopped going to all my family things for 2 years! You'd think that be a big enough hint to stop inviting him! Went a year of that with my boyfriend and then he was convinced we didnt go because i wasnt over my ex or else i didnt want him to be close with my family. I mean i understand over the years he became really close with my brother and there really good friends and we were together a long time. But he's my ex not family!