yessy21 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Last night i was hanging out with some miscellanous people that are friends of a friend. In the middle of conversation i started to feel weird. like the vibe or the energy was not good. i know it sounds crazy but it made me want to leave right away and when i left i felt so much better. Is there a band of Negative or Positive energy around people? or is this just me?
Zaphod B Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I think maybe it was paranoia getting the better of you. Unless there was something you said and did that caused it.
FitChick Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I used to be one of those negative people. After eliminating dozens of my own negative beliefs thanks to the Lefkoe Method (yes, I can't stop talking about it ) I can't stand to be around negative people. There is one woman I work with, as soon as she walks in the door, trudging very slowly with heavy sighs, she sucks all the energy out of the room. She always has another story to relate about her loser boyfriend. She's been complaining about him for five years yet is still with him. She doesn't realize that makes her a loser. After trying to help her, I've given up and just avoid her whenever possible. I have no patience for drama any more so I have more energy.
Author yessy21 Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 FitChick- Thank you. i dont know why. but it was horrible i never felt so bad. i know it wasnt paranoia. why would i be paranoid? im a super social person and this group was wrong. something dark about theyre persona. i dont know how to explain it. but when i stepped into the circle with them i felt :trapped: like under a black veil. i was weak all of a sudden and my optimistic mind was racing.
Teknoe Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Last night i was hanging out with some miscellanous people that are friends of a friend. In the middle of conversation i started to feel weird. like the vibe or the energy was not good. i know it sounds crazy but it made me want to leave right away and when i left i felt so much better. Is there a band of Negative or Positive energy around people? or is this just me? It all depends, but in general, to answer your question, I do think some people carry with them a negative energy, especially if you got off on the wrong foot with them and there hasn't been forgiveness taken place between you two in an open dialogue. At my first church a couple years ago I recall a few people that I just didn't click with too well, and I always felt they disliked me. Whenever I got around them, there was an air of danger... it was unhealthy. I felt like I couldn't be myself or say the things I would say, whenever I was around them. You just got to know the situation, and ask yourself is it you, is it them, is it both, and what's more advisable: running away, avoiding them, or engaging them in an open, candid dialogue about whatever miscues there might have been in the past? In my case, God called me to leave the church because He had placed a better, healthier church in my path. And I thank Him greatly for that! Life's too short to be around people on a weekly basis who only drag down your spirit!
Teknoe Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 FitChick- Thank you. i dont know why. but it was horrible i never felt so bad. i know it wasnt paranoia. why would i be paranoid? im a super social person and this group was wrong. something dark about theyre persona. i dont know how to explain it. but when i stepped into the circle with them i felt :trapped: like under a black veil. i was weak all of a sudden and my optimistic mind was racing. Yes! Toward the final month or two of my stay with my 1st church I absolutely felt this way, too. Whenever I went to small group, I felt drained and went home wondering "Why am I still at this church where I feel unsafe?" (Part of the reason was I asked a couple girls out, they rejected me and I know that started a gossip fire among the girls... they weren't as "holy" as they looked on Sundays) I say stick to your guns. Only you know this situation best. We don't have any clue since we're not there with you physically. Stick to your guns, your gut, and you'll be alright. I do believe some people just carry a negative vibe, and hanging out around them will only drag you down, too.
Teknoe Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 Yes! Toward the final month or two of my stay with my 1st church I absolutely felt this way, too. Whenever I went to small group, I felt drained and went home wondering "Why am I still at this church where I feel unsafe?" (Part of the reason was I asked a couple girls out, they rejected me and I know that started a gossip fire among the girls... they weren't as "holy" as they looked on Sundays) Just to clarify, I don't mean to come off bashing church. But like Christians themselves, some churches really are unhealthy. I'm blessed to now have a home church that is diverse, abundant, and filled with mostly good apples. A lot of enriching friendships have developed from this new church Body. And if you're reading this perhaps on the fence of attending church, as all things, you have to do it on your own to figure out how you like it. Don't take my word for it, but just thought I clarify. Don't want to be misinterpreted as the guy who bashes church/organized religion. There are bad churches out there just like there are bad people out there. But like good people, there's also some really good healthy churches.
spiderowl Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Yes, it's pretty straightforward. Do these people make you feel good, light-hearted and happy or not? Do you come away feeling that you have good self-esteem and have not been harmed by them? I find if my heart sinks and I'm finding it hard to think any happy thoughts and I feel I want to avoid the people, there is definitely some negative energy at work somewhere. Negative energy can be very damaging if it isn't limited to brief and occasional.
Teknoe Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Yes, it's pretty straightforward. Do these people make you feel good, light-hearted and happy or not? Do you come away feeling that you have good self-esteem and have not been harmed by them? I find if my heart sinks and I'm finding it hard to think any happy thoughts and I feel I want to avoid the people, there is definitely some negative energy at work somewhere. Negative energy can be very damaging if it isn't limited to brief and occasional. Agreed. I went to a wedding of an old friend yesterday. Some of her friends though I never felt comfortable around, and when I was around them I just had this negative vibe/feeling in the air. It's as spiderowl described, my heart sunk and I find it difficult to think happy thoughts. As soon as I was driving home late at night, windows down, music blasting, I felt so liberated and happy I'm not at that church anymore. Not that it's a bad church, but it wasn't a healthy place for me to be.
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