futuredentist Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I use to go the the gym everyday and if I missed a day I use to make it up on another day. Now, I just don't care. I started back to school and have not put any effort into my classes. It's like I have no motivation and would rather drink adn try to get as much sleep as I can to avoid the pain. It will be a month on Sept. 7th sense the break up. Even after all we have been through, I would still take him back and I ask myself why. I ask myself what is wrong with me? Why in the world would anyone want to take him back? I still love him. I have been in love before but never like this. How do I break out of this slump. This is my last semester at school and Im afraid if I can't break free from this rut, Im totally going to ruin trying to get my degree this semester.
ScienceGal Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Be tougher with yourself. Make a schedule and make yourself go to the gym. It doesn't have to be everyday, for me it's just 3 times a week. And on the off days, let yourself be lazy and mope if you want. I received my breakup email 30 seconds before a workout class. I thought my legs were going to give out and I started trembling. But, instead of running out crying, I loaded up the smallest amount of weight and just did it, just pushed through. There were many days that I didn't want to get out of bed, but skipping the gym was never an option. And, looking back, that really helped me. If you work out, then you already know how good it feels after. Get addicted to that good feeling. As for the studying, that's going to be harder since your mind is consumed with the relationship. But try. This is YOUR life and your degree is important in YOUR future. Ten years from know you will laugh that you almost flaked out your last year because of what's his name... try to focus on the grand scheme of things and step outside of your hurt. It will get easier, it just takes time. And if you're like me... it takes a long time. You are not alone.
rosie72 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 You are not alone.. i think its 'normal' to feel as you do. A month isnt long against the love you have for him. How long were you together? I can totally relate, i also would take my cheating ex (we split 2 months - 2 weeks ago depending how you look at the long and messy ending) back because i still love him so. Its the same for you..there's nothing wrong with you, you're obviously a person who is compassionate and loves deeply. No matter how your head 'knows' its over your feelings and heart can't just switch off just like that. And this wasnt your choice i guess, so of course you still want him. My ex (*shudders at the word*) has my heart, pure and simple - but i need it back now as he is not going to come back. I have no idea whatsover to 'undo love' - i wish i could tell you how I think try to force yourself to go to the gym - probably the only way. I have the same problem with my work, but ive decided as from next monday i'm going to get it together, no matter how im feeling. I hope things get better for you.. peace, strength and big hugs to you
Beachgirl8 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 A good mind trick to get to the gym when you are depressed is to tell yourself you are just going to go in, no pressure. Put your headphones in, and walk on the treadmill at a slow pace for 5 min, and just leave if you want to go home and sleep. 9 times out of 10 once you are in there you will find something to do and get into a workout. So basically for awhile don't even plan your workouts, just concentrate on the very basic idea of going there.
antinko Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 It's strange how these threads time themselves... I'll be writing a few posts on self motivation over the next few days which you might be interested in. I'll start off with exercise.
spider165 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 After all the sh*t my ex did to me and all the pain she has put methrough I would still take her back too. Stupid! I know but that'strue love. I can relate with not wanting to get up in the AM bcwaking up is the worst part of my day. Waking up and realizing whatmy life has become without them makes me not ever want to wake up.Than when I do wake up just like a hammer the pain hits me right inthe chest and it's all over my whole day is f*cked. Somehowthroughout the day I do manage to climb out of the hole just enoughto keep my head above water so I don't lose it. For me it's hard waking up and nothaving anything to do. The only thing I have going on and lookforward to during my day is work and seeing my family. With my ex Ifelt like I always had something going on even tho it might have beenstupid little things like going to get sushi or a walk in the park.Those things I do miss a lot. I guess key is get a routine going andstart thinking about yourself and your well being. Most of us on hereare not super selfish people or else we would be the ones breakingthe hearts and not caring but now you have to be selfish and putyourself first and I know that's hard to do when you love someone somuch. Look if you lose your health and drinking will do it you willnot only have a broken heart but a lot bigger problems. Keep yourhead up as hard as that may be at the moment and finish school!
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