guccimane99 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I was seeing this girl for three months. I like her alot i took her to an animal shelter for our first date and lunch because i used to charity work there and, I also work out at the same gym as her. So we were seeing each other and i fell for her then we hung out and she had dinner at my house. I asked her out and she was like give me more time so i gave her another couple weeks. Then asked her again and she asked me for some more time so the next night i gave her an all or nothing alternative. She said we could be friend i said all or nothing and i was like u obviously want nothing so im gonna hang up. She was like if u cant wait then yea and i was like why so u can go live up and hook up. Then i hung up didnt talk to her for two weeks go into work. I smile at her like u should do and be polite because i am not a mean or bad guy. She came up to me and asked if we could start talking and i said no i wasnt ready that alot has happend. She was like i should've done this two weeks ago but i want to be with you, im ready and i was like wtf. I was like i dont know of course i wanted to say yes but i need sometime. So i brought her lunch the other day because she was having a stressful day and then i brought up dating again. I was like im ready she was like no ur not and im like yea i am im going out of my way for you. So we fought and of course i didn't win. I look and have two possible options i can either let her go and tell her or just let her go, or i can tell her i want to be friends and just hang with other girls and kind of give her no attention and start seeing someone else. What should i do i told her what i wanted and she was like thats exactly what i wanted to hear and im like whats the problem she keeps bs'ing me. I see her mom at the gym and she tells me that she likes me but i dont see it.
LZ2000 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I was seeing this girl for three months. I like her alot i took her to an animal shelter for our first date and lunch because i used to charity work there and, I also work out at the same gym as her. So we were seeing each other and i fell for her then we hung out and she had dinner at my house. I asked her out and she was like give me more time so i gave her another couple weeks. Then asked her again and she asked me for some more time so the next night i gave her an all or nothing alternative. She said we could be friend i said all or nothing and i was like u obviously want nothing so im gonna hang up. She was like if u cant wait then yea and i was like why so u can go live up and hook up. Then i hung up didnt talk to her for two weeks go into work. I smile at her like u should do and be polite because i am not a mean or bad guy. She came up to me and asked if we could start talking and i said no i wasnt ready that alot has happend. She was like i should've done this two weeks ago but i want to be with you, im ready and i was like wtf. I was like i dont know of course i wanted to say yes but i need sometime. So i brought her lunch the other day because she was having a stressful day and then i brought up dating again. I was like im ready she was like no ur not and im like yea i am im going out of my way for you. So we fought and of course i didn't win. I look and have two possible options i can either let her go and tell her or just let her go, or i can tell her i want to be friends and just hang with other girls and kind of give her no attention and start seeing someone else. What should i do i told her what i wanted and she was like thats exactly what i wanted to hear and im like whats the problem she keeps bs'ing me. I see her mom at the gym and she tells me that she likes me but i dont see it. I think you've made some mistakes in the beginning. I think you giving her a "all or nothing alternative" is really a romance-killer. Don't force her into a corner. Patience is the key. Just be the best person you can be to her, that will improve one's chances of getting a girlfriend who will love you without the forcefulness. You should give her more time and just let her figure out her feelings for you on her own. And well, frankly speaking, even if you are friends with her now, treat her with respect and consideration. Just because you aren't together means that you should be any less of a gentleman. And sometimes, the situation that you face, is to women, the truest test of a man's worthiness to be her intimate partner. They want a man to be for them, not against them, in all seasons. Listen to your heart. M 2 cents.
Author guccimane99 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 I left her a message that said i have been thinking alot and i am done fighting and i dont want to lose you. I just want to be friends.
iJester Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Why'd you go and send that last message? If she responds, tell her that you still have feelings for her, but if friends is all she wants, then you're okay with that for now and you two will probably get over your feelings once you two start seeing other people. Start distancing yourself from her.
Author guccimane99 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 We were never dating and thats what im doing im moving away. Im seeing my ex gf tonight and it will be interesting. She said okay ***** and im done ive left her and she came running back but this time im done. I dont want this i gave her a second chance because i wanted to see what could've been but i have learned there was never gonna be an us. So im chucking up them deuces. I have been nothing but upfront and honest about my feelings about her and she doesnt care, if she does when she seees me moving on she will ask to hang out
Lilmisus Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 The best thing you can do at this point (cause yeah, you did screw it up by giving her the "all or nothing" choice), is to just leave her alone. Don't anticipate on her coming back to you or anything like that, just let it be...and let it die out. If she comes back, great, but don't get your hopes up or back off for that reason alone.
Author guccimane99 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 i let go because i felt like i was getting played she got to hang out with me and hook up with other guys. She came back and told me she wanted to be with me after the fact that i left her because she wanted me to wait even longer. I told her that i didn't want to be with someone that has doubts i want a girl who is going to give the relationship a hundred and ten percent. I told her not talking everyday but hang out once and a while.
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