sw33tdreamz Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Well..this is my first time to post the article on the forum kuz i reallie have no idea what should i do now...also. I think i reallie need to hear something encouraging from you guys.... The story is ...I have a bf who is 6 yrs younger than me. We knew each other from a local church 2 yrs ago, then we became very good friends. In January 2004, we decided to become bf and gf but we dont reallie talk this to other ppl since most of our frineds are from church and we dont want church people get involved in since we both think that they wont support us because our age difference. However, recently they just found out , and they (church uncles and aunts) have been trying to STOP us by telling us "age difference is a big problem..." well...Of course when me and my bf are in love we dont think that is a problem between us, but it is just so hard to tell or show them how we reallie wanna be with each other (kuz they dont want to accpet that aniway)..... I know they just want to tell me how hard the relationship gonna be in the future...but ...it is reallie hard for us to break up now..sigh.... Do you have ani good idea about this? Is there ani successful age difference relationship around you that you can give us some ideas? Plz....help us ..... thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 An age difference is not important. It's the PERCENTAGE DIFFERENCE that is important. You don't list your age, so we can't comment specifically. But look at it this way - if you were 18 and he was 12, then it would obviously be innapropriate. but if you were 26 and he 20, then there's no reason why it couldn't work (I had a very successful 4-year relationship with a 25-year girl when I was 20...). But I'm getting technical. Here's the skinny: If you love each other, and make each other happy, then SCREW EVERYONE WHO HAS A PROBLEM with the relationship . You're in it for the two of you, and no one else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author sw33tdreamz Posted May 6, 2004 Author Share Posted May 6, 2004 thank you so much...well...he is 21 and i m 27...... Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 I've been in a few relationships with age differences. Some younger guys, some older ones. The biggest (and current) gap is about 14 years. We have never had any problems that were directly related to the age difference. -Deranged Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 If he's mature enought to suit you, and you have the wisdom to put it all into perspective, then surely his age is irrelevant. You go, gal. Damn - a young hottie. I could use one of them! I used to recite this mantra when people confronted me about the age difference, it shut them up immediately. "I might be underaged, ma'am, but I am definitely not underdeveloped!" Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 "I might be underaged, ma'am, but I am definitely not underdeveloped!" I love it! Link to post Share on other sites
Author sw33tdreamz Posted May 6, 2004 Author Share Posted May 6, 2004 Ha..I love it too!!! Sometimes I just dont like the feeling that they are sitting there and watching our relationship and thinking that someday there will have problems and by the time they will say to you .."c...i told you b4"...that makes me feel annoying Every relationship could go wrong......even there is no age difference..right!! Thank you guys...I love you~ Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Originally posted by DerangedAngel I love it! I used to love watching their reactions, and the way their eyes immediately started undressing me "down there" Link to post Share on other sites
ziggue Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 My boyfriend is 21 and I am 24. (I thought he was 26 when I met him. He is pretty tall and looks older for his age)That is 3 years difference. People say that isn't too bad. The funny thing about that is that my sister is also 3 years younger then me. Who has a guy that is also 21. He is even older then my boyfriend! Only by 5 months but. Lol. . I also have 2 friends who have boyfriends who are 5,4 years younger then they are. I know a 26yr old going out with a 21yr old and a 25yr old going out with a soon to be 21yr old too. Those two even have a baby together. Just let everybody see how much you two care about eachother then they probably won't even notice an age difference if you guys are still together later on down the track. Link to post Share on other sites
ziggue Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Originally posted by sw33tdreamz thank you so much...well...he is 21 and i m 27...... Toyboy! :bunny:Lol. Only Joking. If it's going well for you two stick too it! . Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Originally posted by ziggue My boyfriend is 21 and I am 24. (I thought he was 26 when I met him. He is pretty tall and looks older for his age) WHAT'S YOUR SECRET?!? I also want to grow younger! Link to post Share on other sites
ziggue Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 I look young for my age! Lol. . Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 my fella is 23, i am 32. there's a lot to be said for dim lighting. Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 Originally posted by BigBelm my fella is 23, i am 32. there's a lot to be said for dim lighting. My sweety is 32 and I'm 40. I'm thinking...BOTOX! Link to post Share on other sites
Clancy Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 Maybe we should ask Ashton Kutcher about his thoughts on this topic. He seems quite happy with his old lady. Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 full body surgery a la demi - will go and shake out the sofa, see how many pound coins are squirrelled away down there & book my consultation. maybe botox can paralyse my hair follicles into dormancy so i dont grow an old lady beard Link to post Share on other sites
abbyroadme Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 Age should not be a big factor. My grandparents were 11-12 years between them. My sister is dating a guy who is 3 years younger. It all depends on the situation in my mind. Though it is not a problem for me right now. I am dating a guy who is 2 months older than me. It all depends on the situation. Link to post Share on other sites
journey3 Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 I, personally, don't think age is a factor, unless it's illeagal, but sometimes it can make a difference, for instance, I'm seeing a guy, who is 2yrs younger, he's never been married & has no kids, I, however, have been married & have 3 kids, it is still pretty new into this, but,I still wonder if he takes me seriously enough, I mean, what if he wants kids. i know if it's meant to be & if he's worth it, But, still it makes me wonder. Link to post Share on other sites
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