emby Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I've been seeing a guy exclusively (although we haven't got as far as to call it girlfriend and boyfriend yet because it hasn't been very long) and have completely fallen for him. However, he's just graduated uni and isn't sure what he's doing with his life. One potential job would involve travelling around the world for 3 years working on oilrigs, and he seems pretty keen on it- and likely to get it. I'd absolutely hate if we never got to try out a relationship because for all the world we seem like a great couple, but on the other hand I do want him to go out and life his life how he wants to and not hold him back. Whilst I'd be happy doing a long distance relationship if we could still see each other, he doesn't want to do that as we haven't been 'together' very long. So I think if we're ever going to be together, it'll be after the 3 years is up...it's a long time to wait and of course who knows if either of us will find someone else. In this situation though, what would be the best way to encourage a relationship after the 3 years? Regular writing and skype calls etc? I think if we stayed in touch and were good (long distance) friends and were single, we'd both be willing to give the relationship a try.
FitChick Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 You both should date other people and keep in touch intermittently -- birthdays, holidays, special events. Then if you are still single after that time, meet up and see if there is still a spark. Even though he is on oil rigs, those guys make good money and usually get chunks of time off so you could still see each other. It sounds like he's not that interested. We all know how difficult it is to find someone good, so maybe he needs to find out for himself. Meanwhile, have a few flings and maybe you will even find someone better. the worse thing you could do is let him know you are pining away for him.
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