lyeex Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I know by giving him an ultimatum i could lose him but i feel like at this point i have no choice. Weve been seeing eachother off and on unofficially for a year. When were together we have an amazing time. He holds me all night, has started introducing me to his friends, his cousin which he lives with, he takes me out sometimes, holds my hand in public. We stay up all night just talking and goofing off. Then i wont hear from him for a few days. He is a very busy guy, works lots of overtime, but a text every now and then wouldnt hurt (which he sometimes does but not very often). I think hes not completely over his ex from 4 months ago as he brings her up negatively sometimes. Should i tell him that i need a relationship or i cant continue to see him? I just want to know how he feels for me once and for all. If he steps up then good, but if not then i wont be wasting anymore time..
Cypress25 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 That's not an ultimatum. If you want a relationship and he doesn't, then you shouldn't waste any more time with each other. I think you've waited long enough. I wouldn't present it to him as "I need a relationship or else..." but there's nothing wrong with saying "I was hoping this would develop into a relationship, but since it hasn't, we need to stop seeing each other." If he wants a relationship at that point, he'll say so. If he doesn't, he'll let you walk away.
CarrieT Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I don't get it; you have been seeing each other for a year but he has an ex from four months ago?
FitChick Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I don't get it; you have been seeing each other for a year but he has an ex from four months ago? Sounds like he was dating the OP out of boredom or until he found someone he liked better -- his ex.
Pierre Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Why would he want to make you a GF? He gains very little. You already give him anything he needs. If he does not talk to you daily he is not that much into you.
sm1tten Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 She said off and on, so I'm guessing during an off period he found someone else and then that ended and he went back to someone reliable. Giving him an ultimatum or whatever will accomplish nothing because you actually already know how he feels - else you wouldn't need to give him an ultimatum. Just stop seeing him.
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