Buttercup84 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 My ex broke up with me in January for the first time. I moved out that night back to my parents. He said he was no longer in love. I was really close to his sister and family , but because I was so devasted and upset I messaged his sister on facebook , explaining that it would be too hard for me to remain in contact at the moment as I am not coping.I said I was deeply sorry and thanked her for everything. She wrote back saying she was sorry and it was Ok. Well a few days later my ex took me back and a day or so later I briefly spoke to his sister on the phone about buying a present for my bfs niece.She seemed really nice on the phone. Anyway , a few days later I told my ex that she blocked me on fb.He spoke to her and she hated me now.Thinking I was only friends with her because of him.Which is bull**** , as I did really like her.We often spoke for hours on the phone ! My ex explained why I did it but now his family hated me too. I would often speak to his mum on the phone too , I was so lucky.She was the one who set us up. My ex and I got into fights because of this , he said I was too impulsive.It really got to me that they hated me. But he didn't seem to care.When I lost my job I could tell they were using that against me too as my ex had to pay our rent and couldn't repay his dad.I did get a job a few months later and paid whatever I could. Now that we are broken up for good. A day after we broke up he deleted all my friends and family , without a message to them.Hypocrite. The reason I posted this is because we fought because of this , he didn't understand why it upset me so much that his family hated me and he blamed me. Was I being too impulsive and stupid ?
danceallday Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Blood is thicker then water. They sided with their blood. It is understandable that they would defend him. It just seems odd that if he broke up with you they are blaming you? He must have lied about breaking up with you and flipped it around. I asked my family to un-friend my ex on facebook. His behavior was despicable so to me that seemed the appropriate action.
Mcnulty Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I don't think this about you being impulsive. You got back with him straight after he said he wasn't in love with you! Did you think you could MAKE him fall in love with you? There's the red flag. The situatio re. his sister, she obviously saw you getting back with him and thought, "she's blew me out and now they're back together, that's why she was mad at you. He is obviously selfish and uncaring as he dismissed your friends and family immediately...sounds like you are better off without him in your life.
Author Buttercup84 Posted September 2, 2011 Author Posted September 2, 2011 Thank you both of you . I promised to change and he did say he was in live with me later . I was so foolish .
channy3418 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Blood is thicker then water, When you are trying to heal and not go back you will do whatever it takes. He does not see a point in messaging your family because it is over between you two. My ex left me while prego because his family did not approve of me after 2 years my children and my divorce. They believed I had my chance at love and he deserves his own chance with someone new. how extreme is that !!! [ QUOTE=Buttercup84;3602328]My ex broke up with me in January for the first time. I moved out that night back to my parents. He said he was no longer in love. I was really close to his sister and family , but because I was so devasted and upset I messaged his sister on facebook , explaining that it would be too hard for me to remain in contact at the moment as I am not coping.I said I was deeply sorry and thanked her for everything. She wrote back saying she was sorry and it was Ok. Well a few days later my ex took me back and a day or so later I briefly spoke to his sister on the phone about buying a present for my bfs niece.She seemed really nice on the phone. Anyway , a few days later I told my ex that she blocked me on fb.He spoke to her and she hated me now.Thinking I was only friends with her because of him.Which is bull**** , as I did really like her.We often spoke for hours on the phone ! My ex explained why I did it but now his family hated me too. I would often speak to his mum on the phone too , I was so lucky.She was the one who set us up. My ex and I got into fights because of this , he said I was too impulsive.It really got to me that they hated me. But he didn't seem to care.When I lost my job I could tell they were using that against me too as my ex had to pay our rent and couldn't repay his dad.I did get a job a few months later and paid whatever I could. Now that we are broken up for good. A day after we broke up he deleted all my friends and family , without a message to them.Hypocrite. The reason I posted this is because we fought because of this , he didn't understand why it upset me so much that his family hated me and he blamed me. Was I being too impulsive and stupid ?
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