Heartbroken222 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I was with my BF for about 10 months and I ****ed it up. There is a seven year age difference between us. I am about to be 28 and he just turned 21. However, he is extremely mature for his age and looks much older and everyone thinks I am much younger. He is a great guy with a great heart. He stood by me when I went through a horrible depression. He waited for me for two months when I moved out of state. He flew to visit me and cried when he had to leave. He made sure I took my medicine when I was sick. He was great! Well, I started to feel insecure about the age difference because I didn't want to get sprung on a guy younger than me when he is still maturing. So I pushed him away. I said mean things to him to push him away. I told him that he was just a rebound and that I still loved my ex and I wanted to get back with him. These were all lies. I didn't mean any of it. So I ended it. Deleted and blocked him from my FB; removed all of his friends from my FB. Deleted his phone number. However, he kept all my friends and family members on his FB. Well, we haven't talked in months and he randomly texted me last week to say, "hey, how are you doing? What's going on in your life." He also texted my guy friend that only knows him through me. They didn't hang out much when we were going out or talk much. Well he texted my friend and asked him how he was doing, etc. This really annoys me because I am trying to move on and now the wound is opened back up again. Why did he contact me? Does it mean anything?
aaron513 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 maybe he's just curious how you are and isn't trying to rekindle anything?
Author Heartbroken222 Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 Im not sure what to think. I ****ed up. That's for sure. I'm very hard headed and prideful. I never apologize and I never begged him back or called him back. But I miss him every day. There's not one day that goes by that I don't think about him.
channy3418 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I think he contacted you just to see how you are and to try and make small talk. If you are not ready for that delete the message and continue your day like you never read it. It is hard when the wound is reopened... do not let it. I was with my BF for about 10 months and I ****ed it up. There is a seven year age difference between us. I am about to be 28 and he just turned 21. However, he is extremely mature for his age and looks much older and everyone thinks I am much younger. He is a great guy with a great heart. He stood by me when I went through a horrible depression. He waited for me for two months when I moved out of state. He flew to visit me and cried when he had to leave. He made sure I took my medicine when I was sick. He was great! Well, I started to feel insecure about the age difference because I didn't want to get sprung on a guy younger than me when he is still maturing. So I pushed him away. I said mean things to him to push him away. I told him that he was just a rebound and that I still loved my ex and I wanted to get back with him. These were all lies. I didn't mean any of it. So I ended it. Deleted and blocked him from my FB; removed all of his friends from my FB. Deleted his phone number. However, he kept all my friends and family members on his FB. Well, we haven't talked in months and he randomly texted me last week to say, "hey, how are you doing? What's going on in your life." He also texted my guy friend that only knows him through me. They didn't hang out much when we were going out or talk much. Well he texted my friend and asked him how he was doing, etc. This really annoys me because I am trying to move on and now the wound is opened back up again. Why did he contact me? Does it mean anything?
Author Heartbroken222 Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 Yeah, it hurts like hell.
TheVSilent Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Yeah, I understand what you are going through, because I too messed everything up with my ex. You know I'm not going to say ignore this text, because if you still miss him, and you feel that maybe you can change as a person, then give it another shot. Just be prepared for whatever happens, but I tend to not give up so easily. Me and my ex broke up in May, I contacted her on a regular basis with her ignoring it, I too think this re opened her pain and memories of me, so I just stopped, I don't want to torture her with memories of how rotten I was to her. I have a lot of learning still left to do, maybe you do too.
Dblock10 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 but you did this on purpose instead of talking him through your issues. he is better off without you. sorry.
Author Heartbroken222 Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 Yeah, I understand what you are going through, because I too messed everything up with my ex. You know I'm not going to say ignore this text, because if you still miss him, and you feel that maybe you can change as a person, then give it another shot. Just be prepared for whatever happens, but I tend to not give up so easily. Me and my ex broke up in May, I contacted her on a regular basis with her ignoring it, I too think this re opened her pain and memories of me, so I just stopped, I don't want to torture her with memories of how rotten I was to her. I have a lot of learning still left to do, maybe you do too. Yep, it hurts like a bitch! I don't know what to do.
coolheadal Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 To me it's just like being used for help and not getting anything back from it! She calls me when she needs things, but doesn't want to talk about anything I want to talk about. I say NO CONTACT but she won't stop contacting me. She'll say "we have nothing to talk about only what I need or what from you and that's it" "no need to call me back!" Words like that is really sad that such a person like that walks this earth. Sometimes you can to think real hard to see why do you want to still talk to this person no matter who's at fault here. In my case it's her fault this happen. In your case sounds like him. Is it worth it to keep open connection with the prior I say no, because just talking to them makes me feel like it's just a bad taste in my month. Sure you might hurt now and maybe never get over the your ex but in time you will. As for me I take each day at a time. I am by myself and it's just me and my dog in this house which is mine. Her house has a nice sign on it FOR SALE!
Author Heartbroken222 Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 To me it's just like being used for help and not getting anything back from it! She calls me when she needs things, but doesn't want to talk about anything I want to talk about. I say NO CONTACT but she won't stop contacting me. She'll say "we have nothing to talk about only what I need or what from you and that's it" "no need to call me back!" Words like that is really sad that such a person like that walks this earth. Sometimes you can to think real hard to see why do you want to still talk to this person no matter who's at fault here. In my case it's her fault this happen. In your case sounds like him. Is it worth it to keep open connection with the prior I say no, because just talking to them makes me feel like it's just a bad taste in my month. Sure you might hurt now and maybe never get over the your ex but in time you will. As for me I take each day at a time. I am by myself and it's just me and my dog in this house which is mine. Her house has a nice sign on it FOR SALE! When he asked how I was, I said, "good, just dirtbiking and jetskiing"
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