k100danny Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 basically i got with a good friend and we were together 2 months have been freinds for a long time. it didnt work out and i was quite anxious in the relationship. it started great but arguments ect happened and she said she didnt think she could give me what i needed. i was obviously hurt and we did talk a lot the next week or so.and went over things a lot. she said she thinks she will always have some feelings for me but knows we arent a good match, something deep down i agree with. a week later she came to my home drunk and said she missed me and still loved me ect but it couldnt work. she later said sorry she said these things because she was drunk. so anyway we had been chatting and always said we would stay friends we werent really hurtfull or disrepectful to each other then all of a sudden she says she is trying to move on and we shouldnt speak. says we cant be friends she doesnt think. and all the warm sentiment seems to dissapear. we always said we had feelings still but this seemed to change over night with her. we have had limited contact in the further 10 days after the first week but she really seems to be holding some grudges, i have been very nice about it and tried to make the peace as we were really great friends and nobody wants to feel that someone dislikes them. i said i understand we cant be friends like we were but hopefully in time we will become friends. then she says something that makes me think she really does not like me or is starting to think what the hell did i see in this guy even though we were friends a long time before and spoke everyday. I just dont udnerstand. ive asked how this happened and she wont give me a reason she just ignores me asking that and replies to other things. i really dont know what i could have done wrong apart from contacting her a lot after we split and she didnt want to go over it but thats it. I really dont understand where all this has come from to be honest.
silly_panda Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Many things are better left not knowing... Even if you know the reason, it does not matter also... She had decided to move on... You should too... Stop trying to figure out what's wrong and all... Or trying to ask her what actually happen... Just move on and meet new people...
Author k100danny Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 I dont want us to get back together but i would like her not to hate me and dont undertand the hostility at all. i just dont see how you can go from one thing to another so quickly. if i had done something wrong i would also like to know aswell so i can appologise and leave it on good terms. i dont want to feel weird if we ever see each other and i would never be horrible unless i had a reason to which i dont.
flitzanu Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 she's convinced herself the best way to deal with you is to hate you and believe you're a jerk. she will treat you terribly just to keep you away from her. people seem to think it's easier that way.
silly_panda Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Hmm... Humans are very complex indeed... I know the urge that you have for wanting to know the reason behind all this... But you can only get the answer from her... And she is not ready to tell you now... There may not even be a reason for her acting this way... You seem to be a real nice guy... And you wanna be there to care for her... Rite now, just continue with your NC... Let her cool down first... And when you think you are ready... You both can talk about it... Meanwhile, don't linger in this 'question' of yours... Hang in there man...
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