confusedandupset Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 So, it's been nearly two months since my ex and I have spoken. Neither one of us has attempted to initiate conversation, so it's been a dead end on both of our parts. The last few times I did see him (he came to get his stuff) I was overtly kind to him, even after he called me a c**t when I told him never to speak to me again (long story). I went out recently with a friend to a bar, and a mutual friend makes the statement, "____ didn't come cause he heard you were going to be here tonight". I thought it was insane. He's removed practically everything about me on his facebook, including my mom and my best friend, and even my uncle. He's purposefully stopped me from attending shindigs with my friends because he doesn't want me to be present. I guess my question is why would an ex go to such great lengths to avoiid you when you weren't the one that did anything? I know it can't be because he still regards me with love, because his actions have spoken against that. Is he trying to give me the boot so that this girl can have her grand entrance? Or is he just anxious to rid me from his life?
Nohbody Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Does it really matter? It's over, it's probably easier if you don't have to see one another.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 It sounds like he's moving on, you're not. You need to move on.
Author confusedandupset Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 I'm sure he's moving on. That's always easier to do when you have someone else to fill the void. And it matters because aside from the blatant ignoring on his part even though I provided him with a civil break up, since he was unable to tell me it was over himself, I don't appreciate someone trying to come between me and my friendships. I deserve to go out just as much as he does, and much unlike himself I haven't all that many friends, which I'm sure he knows. I know life isn't fair, but what gives? How can a person tell you they, "will always love you", to trying purposefully to make your life difficult.
PelicanPete Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 If you want to try to understand something, look at what it is doing - not at what it is. All of his actions point to him not wanting you in his life anymore. His words point to him being confused, which is normal considering he jumped into a new relationship so fast. He isn't fully over you yet, but he wants to be. That's all that matters. Confronting him or getting sucked into his drama will only set you back, so take the high road and avoid him.
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