I lost 100 lbs. way back...aren't girls supposed to flock to you?

[UpDownAllAround]

Ok so I lost 100 lbs. about 7 years ago. My life never changed like I hear it doing for so many people that did the same thing. Aren't you supposed to get way more money, way better jobs, and aren't girls supposed to flock to you, and aren't you supposed to have major major life changes as a result?

 

Well I didn't. It was still the same worthless life. So why should I lose the weight I regained now when I'm still going to be the same worthless dateless invalid as I was back then?

 

I guess I'm trying to find an excuse to do so. But it's hard when women didn't even bother with you when you lost that much weight before.

[sunshinegirl]

Without any other details about your life, all I can say is this: attractive people may have it easier, but that doesn't mean it's easy full stop. You can't just sit back, beaming from your beautiful bod, and expect good things to fall into your lap. Life doesn't simply drop money, better jobs, girls, and major life changes onto pretty people without any effort on their part. It still takes ambition, passion, intelligence (of some kind), effort, and a good attitude to make those things happen.

Edited September 1, 2011 by sunshinegirl

[PegNosePete]

Don't lose weight for other people. Lose it for YOU. If you don't genuinely want to lose weight for YOU then you will just put it back on anyway.

[HeavenOrHell]

Why would things change just because a person lost weight? There's much more to being attractive or successful than being slim/mer.

 

Ok so I lost 100 lbs. about 7 years ago. My life never changed like I hear it doing for so many people that did the same thing. Aren't you supposed to get way more money, way better jobs, and aren't girls supposed to flock to you, and aren't you supposed to have major major life changes as a result?

 

Well I didn't. It was still the same worthless life. So why should I lose the weight I regained now when I'm still going to be the same worthless dateless invalid as I was back then?

 

I guess I'm trying to find an excuse to do so. But it's hard when women didn't even bother with you when you lost that much weight before.

[AHardDaysNight]

It's not a guarantee, just like nothing in life is a guarantee.

[Feelin Frisky]

Everyone lives for themselves. They are not thinking about YOU. They are concerned about themselves. You have to get straight with that bit of reality first. The reason a big weight loss often results in improved forturne is because the person is already someone to others in his or her job, friends and family and each milestone of the transformation has a chance to register on someone who in some way notices, cares or wants to see you cast off that burden. If you're great looking person obscurred beneath the flab and lose a ton of weight also, you will lilely have an edge over other people in that they are mostly doing what they do with their lives while you, the makeover man or women has freedom and power that they don't to start at something new. But the one thing that is for certain in any of these scenarios is that you have market yourself to get people you don't know to WANT to "buy" into you. No one will know you're alive unless you establish a presence, assert yourself, make some commitment in style or fashion that shows you've got some ambition. Show up. No one is just out there with you on their minds wating to give you money and sex just for looking the "normal" they already assume IS normal.