Lucky555 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Bf going on 11 months.... Explained to me about his parents as if it was a reason to not introduce me. It was odd he told me this because I think he knew all I along introduction to family is what I wanted... So I feel like he is telling me things to string me along. I was going to break up with him and I told him why we should. Then he explains that he should have done this or that in the relationship but it's that he has been so drained lately. Is being drained a reason to not express yourself? Or call your gf? Or go on dates? He also just made a large purchase which tells me we are in an "I" relationship. He doesn't see future plans because if he did he would have told me about it or had me help him. I'm not enthused. I'm not happy in my relationship because this last part tells me he will do anything he wants to do....im just his lover once a week. Lastly he said he "likes" me when I ales him how he felt and he said we didn't have enough time together yet to being emotionally connected... Ok so he doesn't love me..I really don't feel like he is trying either Last week we get together and we do his errands! We didn't do anything like a date! He would not take me out to eat after coming up with a ton of exudes not to and ended up slapping a box pizza in the oven "oh how romantic ). I'm clearly being used it sucks. Especially when I let him talk me into not breaking it off. I think he is just doing it for sex..because after his large purchase it was clear that it is not "we" it is me and him. He made the excuse of not being closer to me because we don't see each other enough but i had a lot of time 3 weeks ago before my new job. He didn't have time which was probably a lie. Seems like I'm strung along. He told me to tell him what I need and now how can this be something I tell someone to do? I can't make someone love me or invite me in his life..
simpsonic Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 He sounds more like a f*** buddy than a bf. As you suspected, he basically only wants to keep you around for sex. He clearly does not love you and you are fully aware of that. He says that he's drained? From reading your posts, YOU'RE the one who's drained! I can't imagine having to deal with that kind of crap for that long. I told you in another post of yours that you're better off alone than with this guy. You've already mentioned breaking up with him. Follow through!! Trust me, if you do this a huge weight will be lifted off your shoulders. To quote the Nike slogan, JUST DO IT.
Author Lucky555 Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 He sounds more like a f*** buddy than a bf. As you suspected, he basically only wants to keep you around for sex. He clearly does not love you and you are fully aware of that. He says that he's drained? From reading your posts, YOU'RE the one who's drained! I can't imagine having to deal with that kind of crap for that long. I told you in another post of yours that you're better off alone than with this guy. You've already mentioned breaking up with him. Follow through!! Trust me, if you do this a huge weight will be lifted off your shoulders. To quote the Nike slogan, JUST DO IT. Ya I know now I have to! I basically thought by communicating my needs would help but nothing changed . He told me to tell him abouty needs and he had stated "I deserved better" before. This is clearly an "I" relationship. I am kind of hurt right now but doing my best to keep it together. Yes I'm drained I am carrying a weight on my shoulder. This relationship is going no where. He is not in love with me now and after 11 months I think it's way too long of my time to waste. I have to learn that it'd ok to be alone again But better than being with some one who is using me Thanks.
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