Graceful Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I mean, dont get me wrong, we have had our ups and downs but on the whole our two years together has been great. If she has decided that enough is enough i assume there will be no way to chnage her mind. her feelings surely cannot have changed this quickly Very naive to think her feelings changed quickly. They did not. They have been vanishing before your eyes for months ... they didn't vanish the day she pulled the plug. You just weren't awake. Your bad.
Author beefolive Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 I appreciate your views, thank you. Initially i instigated a break between us as we had begun to argue a lot over silly silly things that didnt matter. I agree, perhaps i did not see what was happening and that she/we were growing apart. The thing is, i realise i have made mistakes and i want to mature/grow up. Firstly for myself but i also want her to be part of my life. Is it wrong to keep trying to prove that too her?
Graceful Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Is it wrong? It might be a waste of your time, but is it wrong? That's up to you, it's your relationship. You get to decide, not a bunch of strangers off the internet. Just be aware that your relationship / her patience with you had an expiration date on it, and it's well past that. If you think you can revive it, that's your decision. Go back and read my longer post and you'll know my opinion. Just mine, but I don't think you can say that what I've said is at all inaccurate to your situation. And this might be your longest relationship to date, but 2 years is not a lifetime, so I would stop dwelling on that. I appreciate your views, thank you. Initially i instigated a break between us as we had begun to argue a lot over silly silly things that didnt matter. I agree, perhaps i did not see what was happening and that she/we were growing apart. The thing is, i realise i have made mistakes and i want to mature/grow up. Firstly for myself but i also want her to be part of my life. Is it wrong to keep trying to prove that too her?
Author beefolive Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 No I agree with most of what you have said. However, two years may not be the longest time in the world but it was a great time. Granted i will be ok if we do not get back together, time heals well and there are many other girls out there. I want to be with her though. Yes i have made mistakes along the way, as has she however i could see us together in the future. I just want to show her things would be different, that line thats used many times............ The advice i was seeking was to help make an informed desicion based on the experiences of others so please keep it coming.
Graceful Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 You might also want to check the "Second Chances" forum. That's where people in your shoes also hang out. That will also give you an opportunity to read more posts of people in your shoes -- so you can see you've got an up hill battle on your hands. I see your GF's decision as final; that has nothing to do with anyone else's situation. Her emotional detachment started months ago, she's way ahead of you on the breakup. Getting back is the easy part. Staying together and making things work is quite another story. Live and learn. That's what we're all here for. I understand your dilemma, but sometimes you have let a person go their own way. Accept that it's over. You'd be surprised how much your pain will subside if you just begin to let go --- that is, of course, when you are ready. Okay, take care.
fauxleather Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 What if your ex has already moved on with another person? Are you still going to wait for him/her?
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