shjoll Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 i met this guy off fling. but apparently we both werent looking for fling he is looking to settle down just like me. So we talked for 2 weeks and decided to meet. he stays an hour away. so he wanted me to cum drive and see him. he told me up front he didnt have any money this week and that he was broke. so i drove to see him and he didnt meet at our spot until3 hours later just when i was fed up about to go home. so when i finally meet him he told me he wanted me to pay for the hotel and he would pay for the food. we ended up staying in the hotel and i paid for it but no food. so i went to see him my b day weekend and ended paying for my own stuff. he is in college and paying for his school and paying for his sons private school. does it make me look desperate that i have been paying for every thing? I also dont want to continue having sex with him until he decides he ready for marriage this could be my first real dating experience I need any and all advice:love:
ja123 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Yes, it does make you look desperate and that you don't value yourself. He might be a nice man, but he needs to get his finances in order before marriage/settling down. If you're paying for a few things now, then imagine ALL that you'll be paying for if he moved in with you or you got married! Wait a sec' ... How can he be a nice man when he's totally mooching off you? And he was 3 hours late?!!! I don't know if I'm more angry at him or at YOU for having waited. Check out Suze Orman's book, "The 9 Steps to Financial Freedom." She has a very good chapter on couples and money. Also check out: http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Love-Bitches-Relationship/dp/1580627560/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1314859929&sr=8-1
Author shjoll Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 the only reason i waited because i didnt want to have driven and hour away to be a waste. he says he ws getting his kids together so he could get away for the weekend. i felt he was lying about it. The reason i feel he is a good guy is because he has custody of his daughter and is raising her alone. and the fact that he opened up to me about being afraid to love because every woman leaves him because of his lack of sexual performance. i think im settling really do feel like i deserve better. but what if his finances get better.
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