ChocolatePanda23 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 So recently I've been having trouble on how to get over someone. Here's how it all began. So i met this guy who i fell for the minute i met him (i know corny but bear with me here) and we had begun to talk. He had recently got out of a relationship and I knew that I was probably his rebound but I just tried to ignore the fact. At first he told me he just wanted to be friends but as we went out one day he began to hold me and show signs that he wanted to be more than friends. He offered that we have a friends with benefits relationship and I could tell it might not lead to anywhere but I just didn't want to lose him...So for a month we talked and it was so close to a relationship I would talk to him about it. But he had lost faith in those types of things (at least thats what he said) and we continued. One day he just agreed to separate when I brought it up...I was upset at how simple he accepted it. Now he's with some other girl that he brought up in our conversations from time to time. He's in a relationship with her, falling for her, and she had previously hurt him. I'm standing here wondering what's wrong with me after all this time...I was nothing but supportive and now I feel like I was just a waste of his time. Yes I'm disgusted by him now and yes I know that he wasn't worth my time...but I can't stop thinking about him. He impacted my life for just a short amount of time that I just want someone like him again (minus the wrong things he's done to me). I don't know how to get through this...I want him back but I'm not sure it would be worth it. How do you get over someone that gave you some of the worst and best times you've had? And also I know that I'm being an idiot for wanting such a guy back but I'm just here for opinions and to let my emotions out not for someone to criticize me. Thank you.
silly_panda Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Hey... In my humble point of view (as a guy), this guy it just using you... Sorry to be harsh or direct... But this is what I think... Like you said, he just got out of a relationship and you both met... You know that there is a big posibility that you will be the rebound girl... Worst, this guy don't wanna even be in a relationship with you... Yea... Maybe he doesn't wanna hurt you and stuff, BUT he wanted a FWB relationship with you... Which pretty much tells you what's his intention rite..? Well, it's not rite for me to judge him cause I don't know him but based on your story, this is what I think... He only needed someone to be there and get a little physical thing going until he is able to move on/heal... I know people will get the feelings of really attracted to a person when they first saw someone they like... But in my opinion, most of it is infactualtion and lust (it may feel a lot like love)... Not love yet... Love is far more deeper and need more time to develop... That's what I think... Just forget about him... Work on yourself... You deserve someone much more better and I believe you will be able to find someone... Hang in there girl...
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