phineas Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 Avoid bad women. Seriously, the one biggest mistake I'd make in my life is to see too much into things. So little Miss Flaky is giving me attention, flirting maybe, but generally being friendly, etc...she might not want me, but I'll assume she does. I'll see tiny things and think they're more than they really are. So I'll pursue, get FZed, and then feel "burned". What I should have done? Waited for real attention. A girl telling me I look nice isn't enough...but her clinging on to me all night, chatty, slipping me her number, talking about getting together sometime (or throwing me opportunities to ask her out)...that's when I see it as more. Too many guys think a girl being nice to them means she wants him. This. Except i'm at the point now where I really don't catch feelings, expect very little from women & allow them to "friend-zone" me then use them as validation to help me hit on other women (it works) and basically only talk to them when I want to go out or need them to help me shop for clothes. I'm not their cuddle bitch, gay shopping buddy or emotional tampon. Essentially we are friends on MY terms only. with the exception of the below special cases. I also think men need to learn to dump someone the moment they see the red flags. This is the advice I give to women all the time. So you two click, great first date, maybe even made out. Then a week later she's a psychological mess as she remembers one time when her ex boyfriend slapped her around, or she's gone "cold" and confesses she's still carrying a torch for an ex, or she has a bad day at work and now questions if she should be dating anyone or remain single. Leave...seriously. So many times I'd try to "make it work", when I should have left. The girls one by one all just decided to just "vanish" one day and hope I'll get the message. Some had the guys to end it with me to my face. I learned that when you see those red flags, just leave. Don't empower her to keep abusing things or playing games while she "figures it out". This also. I just cut contact with women like this by telling them i'm not interested in being friends. when these women pull this crap it's usually right at the point when it's time to decide what we are & if she don't know then i'm not going to waste anymore of my time on her because it's obvious she just isn't attracted to me. However, i've hit a situation where women I meet actually tell me they think i'm a player that sleeps with tons of women & don't believe me when I tell them that isn't the case. So I let them "friendzone" me so they can spend some time with me low-pressure & get to know me. Apparently since loosing weight i'm more attractive than I thought. (who knew). I don't go looking for ONS but when an opportunity with someone attractive presents itself I don't turn it down. Sue me. LOL!
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