Breaking NC to Say Thanks and Sorry?

[Casablanca]

Okay, so I've been NC with an ex for about 8 months, and have very limited contact before then. The NC is because she doesn't want to have any sort of friendship other than limited contact to once a month and pretty much on her own terms. The last thing I said to her was basically me saying she's been a crappy friend since our break up.

 

I did break up with her, but I did try and get back together with her, she said no thanks, she also said she understood why I broke up with her the first time...so she really has little reason to not want to keep a friendship (and I'm not talking hanging out, but talking either online or through text once or twice a week and I told her this is what I wanted and if she couldnt commit to that to just never talk to me again)

 

Seeing Paul McCartney in concert talking about John Lennon and how he was sad he couldnt say what he wanted to say to John when it became too late. It gave me the idea and I eventually sent her a letter, not directly apologizing for calling her a crappy friend, but to just thank her for being her and changing me for the better

 

I feel pretty good, feel like I got some mature closure on the whole thing for me

 

Anyone ever done anything like this?

 

PS No she did not respond and I'm okay with that, I actually prefer that

[Nohbody]

Whatever makes you feel better isn't a bad thing. Should post that up on the wall somewhere...

[PelicanPete]

I did something along those lines with my ex. I am happy knowing that my last message to her was polite and with a rational mind, which reassured me that my whole irrational grieving process was finally over. It was almost a graduation speech consisting of "I'm finally over you, wish you the best, have a nice life."

 

Of course my ex tried to take advantage of the break in NC by causing drama. However she didn't have an emotional hold on me anymore, and just looked like an idiot flailing about like a fish out of water.