rubberhedgehog Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Hey everyone. Hope you're all doing well! I've posted here a while back when I first started to go out with my girlfriend regarding a difference in our backgrounds. To sum up, I'm doing a PhD in the UK but grew up abroad in a non-english speaking society where family is considered everything. To such a point that I think I'm the only one of my contemporaries who enjoys seeing their parents and my best friend is my little sister (I've got 4 sisters to chose from and she is my favourite!). My girlfriend is English and definitely does not have the same outlook. She couldn't wait to leave home after school and hates having to see her parents every few weeks. Ok, we've been together for 10 months now and (touch wood) everything is great. There is not a single thing I'd change about her Living in a different country from my entire family has been tough and I've got about another 2 years of my doctorate left until I am free to move back. What got me thinking was going to my sister's wedding a few weeks ago. I really enjoyed being there with everyone, and talking in my native tongue, doing my native traditions (which my gf does not know too much about......) I am thinking now that I don't think I can end up marrying my girlfriend. Does everyone go through this sort of panic? I love her to bits, but I don't think I can pull myself to stay away from my family and home friends for ever (she has made clear that she wants to remain in the UK to work). Or am I being stupid and thinking too far ahead and p*ssying out of the best thing that's ever happened to me? I am 25 and she is 23. Thanks for any insight!
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