girlish334 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 My high school love left me for my best friend. My Dad left my Mom for another woman after 17 affairs over twenty years. I exposed the truth of my husbands intense 3 week emotional affair with a very unstable and devious mutuAL co-worker. He was the executive chef at a restaurant, me a front of the house superviser and she was a younger waitress (she is 22 and we are in our late twenties). Man. ..... It was SOOO rough at first. I constantly was traumatizing myself over and over with everything that had happened. I never worked with them at the same time but there were countless times that hints or indicators of the affair showed itself. But, I was in love and It didn't occur to me to not trust my husband when he had valid excuses to suspicious behavior. And the other woman was something else. Becoming my friend and starting dialogue on our relationships to use it against me. She even tried to get me fired. You know what though? I don't go down easy! I will win and with class! She was let go from work my husband immediately ended things with the twisted girl. She went on to get a new job and is now with that Chef (25 years her senior). Luckily she is no longer with the fiance she betrayed with my husband. Can you imagine. But hey... I feel good. I have been feeling good! The first six months were miserable all day every day and it didn't seem to get much better. These laswt couple months though have been crucial. I feel like I have control again. Yes I get tings of pain and some things trigger me. I do lash out on my husband sometimes but I will tell ya.... I never thought the pain would go away but I have surprised myself. My husband and I are closer then ever. We are there for each other so much more. Always happy to be around each other and having him enhances my life so much. He appreciates me, he is thoughtful. Love has never been the problem really and it wasn't the cause of the affair. I think it was because you assume that love is all you need when thats BS. Just because you are in love doesn't mean you don't have to try that it will just fall into place. Disaster! I swear... even though I still want to shake the life out of my husband sometimes and scream "why why why?", the most intense overwhelming feeling I have towards him is love. You can take something from this. I know what I want. Why I want it. What I will do for it. Sacrifices and pride put into consideration. Bottom line.... no young homely bimbo has the power to take away something that was around long before her and long after. Marriage is about two people and if you both really want it to work and love each other.... that's unconditional love. Unless he does it again in which case.... on to the next!!!!
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