Ajax Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Alright friends... This doesn't really fit with my ongoing coping thread, but I'm interested in anyone's reaction... I joined Match.com. Not my first choice of ways to meet people, but I know a couple people who've had good luck on it, so I thought I'd give it a shot. I came across my ex's housemate (at least they were living together as of the breakup a year ago) while browsing profiles. To avoid awkwardness, I simply passed it by. Then one day I noticed she sent me a "wink." Out of curiosity, I responded with a quick "hey how have you been/what have you been up to" type message. She responded and we sent a few more messages back and forth, but it's becoming clear that she really doesn't remember who I am. We were never really friends, but I spent plenty of time in her apartment while I was with my ex, hung out with her and her friends, and even accompanied my ex girlfriend to her family's house once. Now maybe it's just a bruise to my ego, but I thought I was more memorable than that! I have to say I'm somewhat baffled. Rather than continue what can only become an increasingly awkward correspondence, I think it's safe to say I won't be writing back.
Dblock10 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 or... she likes you and doesnt want to mention it all to ruin a chance with you. go for it i say! would be an awesome way at getting revenge if you ever wanted it
Author Ajax Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 (edited) or... she likes you and doesnt want to mention it all to ruin a chance with you. go for it i say! would be an awesome way at getting revenge if you ever wanted it Even if that were the case, it seems a little far fetched that she would pretend not to remember me in hopes that she'd get a chance with me. Having left no apparent mark on someone's memory doesn't seem attractive to me. Regardless, revenge is a dish best never served, in my opinion. I will say this however, it also leads me to conclude that the breakup must have been far easier on my ex than I'd even imagined for her room mate not to have remembered it. While it took me months to pick up the pieces, evidently her room mate never even noticed she'd broken up with someone. But... it doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. Edited September 1, 2011 by Ajax
ScienceGal Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Definitely ignore her. I don't see any good outcome from continuing to communicate with her. I have been there though, on both sides of forgetting and being forgotten. Don't take it personally. Especially if at many of the gatherings there was alcohol involved And, she may just be playing it cool, although I am not sure what she would hope to accomplish by that. Good luck with the online dating. I gave up on it before I even went on a date! I am interested to hear how it goes for you. Keep me posted!
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