mittk Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I am new to here so hello. I am not entirely sure if this is the right category, but my situation was suppposedly leading to dating, so I thought it was appropriate to put it here. Here goes. Me and this person have been texting for over a week incessantly, pretty much on a daily basis, discussing even the little things. There was banter, friendliness and a general sense of pleasantness. Many of the covnersations were started by them, not me. We had finally arranged to meet for the first time but something came up. There was a slight issue the evening we were supposed to meet. In essence, something else had come up which meant they weren't able to meet. After my questioning what was up, they apologized and excused themselves. The apology only came after my questioning, but once it came, it was reasonable. I waited for over a day then followed up 2 mornings later, to which they replied everything was still great. I wasn't sure about that - or at least it didn't sound entirely right - so I asked if they wanted me to stop getting in touch with them and they responded no - saying that they still wanted me to talk to them. I said I'd let them go (this person also said they were tired) and told them to get in touch with me once everything was ok. It has been over 48 hours and I haven't heard back. Although it is very likely they aren't interested, I at the very least want to hear it from them, since our communication was extremely friendly initially... Moreover, I was very polite and pleasant in asking them if they wanted our mini "text relationship" to end - and they said no. Why would they do that under the assumption that they lost interest? Because they are afraid to hurt my feelings? I said that wouldn't be the case. Now I am in a position where I want to hear an explanation - and will probably have to be the first person to text asking what is up. I am not - and don't want to appear - desperate, yet I really need to hear. We are both mature adults. How long would I wait before texting again asking what's up? Is 48 hours sufficient?
thatone Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 i'm guessing you're the man, because she flaked on you. assuming i'm right... the answer to your question is to take the attention away. if she cancelled on the day of the first date she should have offered another date, time, and apology. if she didn't, you delete the phone number, stop all contact, and walk away. you are not both mature adults. she is an insecure child. her actions prove it.
Imageiko Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 the answer to your question is to take the attention away. if she cancelled on the day of the first date she should have offered another date, time, and apology. This. I wouldn't initiate anymore contact until she initiates. Maybe throw in a last ditch effort a week or so from now but if you get to that point it's very likely dead anyway.
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