Dblock10 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 ok so, go NC to get over them and move on right?.... well what if your in my position...... i want her back but cant since she is travelling for the next 6 months. and we broke up because she doesn't want re stresses at this time in her life and doesn't want to stick together and fall out due to arguments, or cant promise commitment to do something that is in area around me when she's back.. pretty hard huh... plus, my nan has died and ive not heard from her in 3 weeks now. she was even on fb earlier and didnt say a word. saying that, she never really uses the chat. but still. if she was thinking of me, she would have made it known by now. so for that reason i am going to continue NC but yeah, hurts cause i fell in love with her and she always kept me at arms length. sigh
FinOuch Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 You can't "get" someone back. The best you can do is allow them to come back, if they so choose. Given that she completely blew off a death in your family (I'm assuming, by your post, that she did know) that she isn't interested in reconciling. You can't force her to care. So with that being said...NC is no more counter productive than being pleading, being a friend-zoned doormat, or any other direction you may want to take. In fact, it actually is more productive because it's less annoying than in the former case, and induces some sense of loss in the latter.
Author Dblock10 Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 (edited) thanks for that post fin, yeah well.. when i went to see my ex "that day", we went for a meal and i told her that my nan had had a second stroke and it wasnt looking good at all she could see i was upset holding back some tears. so my mum and the rest of the family went to go and see her and i would be joining them the next day. the next day she obviously knew where i was going as i set off from hers. i havent heard from her since. i put my face book status as something in loving memory for my nan. and not changed it since she was on face book today for about 15 minutes today and didn't once say anything. and i didn't say anything to her.... the other day think it was yesterday, i went on her facebook, nothing really to report. she isn't advertising that she is "single" on her page... and nor am i. does this mean anything? you are right about nc in my case though. edit. i could break nc thats been 3.5 week now and say hey, hows things? hope work is going ok, im moving soon and have a new job. my nan passed away a few weeks back, hope your nan is ok. that would make her feel major guilty right? Edited September 1, 2011 by Dblock10
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