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Why do 'women in this thread's opinion matter that much to you? There's plenty of people out there who are almost the exact height, and it works out well. Sure, some women want to be towered over. That's their preference. But there are tons out there man who don't mind a man who is near their height. They just seek that feminine response that a man gives them (as they should), because it's a basic biological need they want filled.

 

Don't let something as negligible as this hold you down man. Keep your head up.

 

its not just this thread any forum im on practicall tevery women puds height as a huge physical dealbreaker..

 

Im bad enough with attracting women but finding out how powerful height is to women is just like another strike against me..

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I don't look to women to make me feel masculine and women should not look to men to make them feel feminine. Decades after the women's movement and people are still caught up on gender roles. This shows that women are just as caught up and confused about changing roles as men are. Feel feminine or masculine comes from inside. It's like men who don't feel masculine if their wife makes more. Who cares as long as the things that really hold a relationship together are in place?

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Just wait for these women to get older...they will realize that their stock market value is plummeting and they won't even rate the taller men...then they'll complain that there are no good men out there...same old tired story...

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Keep your head up.

 

Indeed. You might gain an inch with good posture. :laugh:

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I'm sure you shorter guys would prefer a girl shorter than you, so I don't see why it's a big deal that many (but not all) women have a preference as well. You have a height preference too!

 

At 5'9", I rarely get approached by guys shorter than myself, even though I'm attractive. Why? Because I assume they're not attracted to me. I don't complain about it. I like being tall and if I'm not considered attractive by every man in the world, that's fine. I'm sure there are even some tall guys who prefer short women. I just find guys who like tall women (like my ex, who said he had a hard time being attracted to women under 5'7").

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Just wait for these women to get older...they will realize that their stock market value is plummeting and they won't even rate the taller men...then they'll complain that there are no good men out there...same old tired story...

 

Good point..

 

It's funny you always hear how women are helpless romantics and men are the picky shallow ones but most of the stories on forums like this are the exact opposite..

 

A lot of Men looking for a decent women to love..Women looking for the perfect Ken Doll/Knight in shining armor she ws promised as child who must fill all the huge checklist of things to be given a chance..

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I'm sure you shorter guys would prefer a girl shorter than you, so I don't see why it's a big deal that many (but not all) women have a preference as well. You have a height preference too!

 

At 5'9", I rarely get approached by guys shorter than myself, even though I'm attractive. Why? Because I assume they're not attracted to me. I don't complain about it. I like being tall and if I'm not considered attractive by every man in the world, that's fine. I'm sure there are even some tall guys who prefer short women. I just find guys who like tall women (like my ex, who said he had a hard time being attracted to women under 5'7").

 

I totally undertsand you want to be shorter then your man..

 

Its just frustrating when most shorter women dismiss short men for not being tall enough as well..Like you must be at least a hall of foot taller then her or she cant feel feminine..

 

Goofy creatures

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I'm sure you shorter guys would prefer a girl shorter than you, so I don't see why it's a big deal that many (but not all) women have a preference as well. You have a height preference too!

 

At 5'9", I rarely get approached by guys shorter than myself, even though I'm attractive. Why? Because I assume they're not attracted to me. I don't complain about it. I like being tall and if I'm not considered attractive by every man in the world, that's fine. I'm sure there are even some tall guys who prefer short women. I just find guys who like tall women (like my ex, who said he had a hard time being attracted to women under 5'7").

 

I have a feeling that for a majority of shorter men, it's not they don't find you attractive, but rather, they don't see a point in being interested in a girl who is just like the rest of them, obsessed about height, and insistent on someone taller than her...which is even harder the taller she is..sure, you might be an exception to the rule, but like many things in life, exceptions just aren't worth it.

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I am 5'11 and I never cared one bit about if she is taller or shorter than me. Things like that really don't affect me. Most men really are not nearly as shallow as most women think. Even when we do love them just the way they are they think we have ulterior motives. My ex got her hair cut short one day and she really did look great but she accused me of saying she like it only to keep her from other men. We can't win either way.

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I totally undertsand you want to be shorter then your man..

 

Its just frustrating when most shorter women dismiss short men for not being tall enough as well..Like you must be at least a hall of foot taller then her or she cant feel feminine..

 

Goofy creatures

 

Men complain about the above, but how many are willing to date women taller than themselves?

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I totally undertsand you want to be shorter then your man..

 

Its just frustrating when most shorter women dismiss short men for not being tall enough as well..Like you must be at least a hall of foot taller then her or she cant feel feminine..

 

Goofy creatures

 

Meh, I call bullsh*t...women are just as competitive with women as men are with other men when it comes to having a trophy significant other...life is just one big f*ck measuring contest and women are just as apt to do it too...tall men just look better in a girl's arms than a similarly built short man...it's more winning...

 

And also, I have a feeling really short women "require" freakishly tall men in order to compensate for their own lack of height amongst other women...

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Men complain about the above, but how many are willing to date women taller than themselves?

 

And the same could be asked of women...how many women would be willing to date a guy shorter than themselves?

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Meh, I call bullsh*t...women are just as competitive with women as men are with other men when it comes to having a trophy significant other...life is just one big f*ck measuring contest and women are just as apt to do it too...tall men just look better in a girl's arms than a similarly built short man...it's more winning...

 

And also, I have a feeling really short women "require" freakishly tall men in order to compensate for their own lack of height amongst other women...

 

Oh i agree with that also..women look for trophies probably more then men

 

As i said the more i read these forums it seems like more men are helpless romantics where women are looking for a trophy

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Well, I mean, even if this is the case, what do you want them to do?

 

Absolutely nothing. Tis the way of the world.

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Well, I mean, even if this is the case, what do you want them to do?

 

Say I'm sorry?

Change their preferences?

 

Because they won't do either, as is their right.

 

Don't let their opinions weigh this heavily on your conscious.

 

ehh its just frustrating at times..especially when u constantly hear women around you say there are no good guys while they have such strict standards for whod theyd give a chance to whle you stand there insivisble

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You have to blame us men a little for creating these spoiled entitled princesses..

 

As long as a women is semi cute or not ugly shes treated like a mini celebrity which gasses her head up..

 

Of course most women with that kind of attention and being coddled will have a inflated ego and sense of worth..

 

Its like if you dont discipline your kid at all and let him get away with anything and give em everyhting they want how are you gonna be shocked that they grow up to be spoiled and entitled?

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And the same could be asked of women...how many women would be willing to date a guy shorter than themselves?

 

I feel like I've trained myself over the years to not be attracted to shorter guys because they didn't seem attracted to me. I have dated shorter guys in the past, one who was 5'6", and it ended for reasons having nothing to do with height (he was very needy/clingy and he tricked me into meeting his parents after I told him I was not ready to do so!).

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You have to blame us men a little for creating these spoiled entitled princesses..

 

As long as a women is semi cute or not ugly shes treated like a mini celebrity which gasses her head up..

 

Of course most women with that kind of attention and being coddled will have a inflated ego and sense of worth..

 

Its like if you dont discipline your kid at all and let him get away with anything and give em everyhting they want how are you gonna be shocked that they grow up to be spoiled and entitled?

 

Attractive men are the same way. I even saw this with one teacher in high school. The school hunk would blatantly act out in class and the teacher wouldn't even reprimand him. Like I said in another thread if the world kisses your butt no matter how you act it doesn't build character.

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At least MrNate gets it ;);)

 

My femininity doesn't rely on having a "taller" man. I felt very feminine when I was single (independent from any intimate relationship). A man can however, enhance that, and I'm happy about it =)

 

Also, other things that Woggle mentioned... I can appreciate some traditional gender-based roles... but I can "step" out of them and feel non-threatened, too. Having an issue with people enjoying them is still having an issue with gender. In conclusion, it's about what works for you.

 

I have been overlooked for shallow things and I just don't take them personally. A man once dated me and said that everything about me was fine but I would have to make some adjustments if we were to continue dating --- first, I needed to get my nails done, my hair color changed, and an artificial tan. I told him no thank you and good luck. I didn't get mad or anything... it was silly that he wanted to change someone to fit within his physical preferences, rather than just finding them already but,

 

I do not think EVERYONE is meant to be SEXUALLY attracted to EVERYONE. We LOOK different for GOOD reasons... if it is just finding optimal genetics, people should be more "real" rather than trying to conform to what seems to "work"...

 

maybe my genes want my potential offspring to be higher or maybe there's some other benefit or indication, it's all really too complex that it should be. Indications, possibilities... gah. Just go for what you like and be as true to yourself as you can.

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I am 5'2". There aren't many men shorter than me!

 

I also do not like really skinny guys. I need a guy that is thicker than me.

 

And I would have to say that unclean teeth cannot be fixed with confidence.

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Nate doesnt get it. Hes tall so he cannot relate. Being born short eliminates more than half your potential dating pool if youre a guy. Sure sucks but there is nothing you can do.

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Nate doesnt get it. Hes tall so he cannot relate. Being born short eliminates more than half your potential dating pool if youre a guy. Sure sucks but there is nothing you can do.

 

What about being straight? That limits the dating pool too.

 

Regardless, whatever "narrows" it can be looked at in multiple ways. Think of how much you'll appreciate the woman that wants you for you and isn't so superficial about height :laugh:

 

I've seen women with guys their height and women whom are even taller. Just as I've even seen athletic type men with quite large women. There's always possibilities out there beyond what's "typical". Focus on those ones rather than the negative ones.

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Men complain about the above, but how many are willing to date women taller than themselves?

 

I am. Bring on the WNBA centers! :love:

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