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Three awful dates with men my own age, and I find myself back with a youngin'

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Thank you all SO much ! He's lovely. We had "the talk" tonight and looks like were going steady, lol, and we'll deal with the age issue if and when it comes up.

 

 

Feeling good feels so damn GOOD again after two years of mourning !!!!:bunny:

 

That statement alone makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

 

You're a vixen;) and I love it:love:

 

Be happy- it's been a long time coming.

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That statement alone makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

 

You're a vixen;) and I love it:love:

 

 

 

And thank YOU so much for not being weirded out by the Shorter D-Lish reference :laugh:

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That statement alone makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

 

You're a vixen;) and I love it:love:

 

 

 

And thank YOU so much for not being weirded out by the Shorter D-Lish reference :laugh:

 

You paid me a awesome conmpliment, and it made me feel good to read that.

 

I'm really so happy for you.

 

If the gender rolls were reversed, I'd still advise it would be totally cool as long as the guy is mature.

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May it last a long, long time :love::bunny::bunny::bunny:

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melodymatters Established Member

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Things are going swimmingly. I don't care if we are both "rebounding" in a sense, if I'm a million years older, lol. Hey, I'm 5"1 and he's 6"5 so there are some other disparate numbers to play with ;)

 

We watch a lot of videos on youtube, so I played one for him that I said reminded me of us ( "must be doin' something right") and then cocked my head sideways and asked " Is that too corny ? " He replied " Probably not as corny as this" and proceeded to play " Love you this big":love:

 

So yeah, I'm happy. And if it all crashes and burns tomorrow I will still be grateful that the universe gave me one more ride on the roller coaster !

 

PS. I tried on his glasses and the boy is blind as a bat ! I told him I think we solved our age difference issues right there : I hide these things, you won't even know if i'm in the same ROOM let alone see any future wrinkles:laugh:

 

PPS. D-Lish........DATE THE BANKER DUDE, at least once, do it for me :D

Cee Established Member

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Glad you posted an update. Enjoy your relationship and post updates. I like to learn from other couples. It's nice to hear good news.

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Well...it's been a month now and it's better than ever ! We are both natural romantics, so we are probably pretty nauseating if anyone could hear us !:D

 

And...I had to kick my abusive roomate out and he was kicked out by HIS abusive roomate so yeah....we've been living together for most of this time.

 

Still not even one petty argument, we're both such nice people we can't do enough for each other.

 

So, bottom line, we are truly,madly,deeply in love and no one is going ANYWHERE !:love:

Cee Established Member

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So glad to hear the update and glad the living together thing is going well. Age gap relationships are rare on this board and it's nice to chat about this stuff.

 

I'll be curious to see how this works out. I have a lot of questions about whether cohabitation would work for my relationship. I want to live with him, but I hesitate. For now, I put the move on hold. I will likely ask your advice on this in the near future.

 

Keep posting, MM. I love your story.

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Celibate for two years after my widowhood, finally ready to date.

 

Guy 1 - had a secret girlfriend

 

Guy 2 - psycho who lost his mind because I had borrowed a t-shirt for the beach and an EMPTY cardboard box and he stalked me until he got them back

 

Guy 3 - actually never had a date as we planned TWO and he had to cancel both times that very morning with no explanantions.

 

So there's a 20 something guy at work who had been flirting heavily and I finally said "why not" and now he sleeps in my bed every night. For the record, I'm a hot 44 ( a shorter D-lish basically). I know it won't last forever but life is short and why not enjoy oneself right ? FWIW, he was married young, owned a house with his ex and has 2 daughters, so he's pretty mature.

 

Is there a question here ....not sure......just tell me if I'm bad or crazy or just enjoying life ?!?

 

PS. will be at work til 9 or so, so will get back to ya'll then ! Thanks !

 

 

The country I live in it is quite common to see an older woman and a younger man. Enjoy! :)

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Thank you all so much for your support. People at work seem to have no problems with it which is great ! My boss is kindoff a buddy so I told him about my awful dates and he said " So you got yourself a youngin', you need one to keep up with all of YOUR energy !" I mean he's ( my guy) 6'6 with facial hair and glasses and I'm tinkerbell, so it really doesn't seem too glaring until we have to put our birthdates on things like *gulp* airline tickets !

 

Were going up to NY for a wedding soon, so we'll see how MY family reacts, then it's his for Christmas, double gulp !

 

Cee, I think your cohabitation issues would be the same whether he was 44 or 24 am I right ? I'm an all or nothing girl, and you seem a bit more careful....reserved....self protective....you pick the adjective !:laugh: Nothing wrong with that. My Michael dying at 24 has vastly changed my perspective on things so.....

 

Wishing you all well ! XOXO:love:

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Cee, I think your cohabitation issues would be the same whether he was 44 or 24 am I right ? I'm an all or nothing girl, and you seem a bit more careful....reserved....self protective....you pick the adjective !:laugh: Nothing wrong with that. My Michael dying at 24 has vastly changed my perspective on things so.....

 

 

Yes, it's not about age really. I am being careful because in my last relationship, I was too impulsive. I eloped with a guy I dated for 3 months. He happened to be 16 years older, which is kind of funny. We shacked up and played married for about a year before it went to hell. I know that my BF and I would be happy for at least a while. But I want to know that we have a chance at a long-term future. It doesn't have to be forever, but I don't want to move out in a year.

 

By the way, nobody in my life or his has made a big deal about the age difference. I'm glad his parents are 15+ years older than me. Apparently, they married later in life. And my mom has been very kind about the relationship, but then again, my sister's husband is 9 years younger than her.

 

The moving in talk seems to have rejuvenated us a bit. Or maybe it's me getting back in shape. Lately, we've been even more lovey and happy than usual. I feel very optimistic about him and about love in general. Melody, I am so happy for you. :love:

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Thank you all so much for your support. People at work seem to have no problems with it which is great ! My boss is kindoff a buddy so I told him about my awful dates and he said " So you got yourself a youngin', you need one to keep up with all of YOUR energy !" I mean he's ( my guy) 6'6 with facial hair and glasses and I'm tinkerbell, so it really doesn't seem too glaring until we have to put our birthdates on things like *gulp* airline tickets !

 

Were going up to NY for a wedding soon, so we'll see how MY family reacts, then it's his for Christmas, double gulp !

 

 

Mel, I think you bring out the best in people and that the people in your life therefore want only the best for you. I'm sure you're family and friends will be thrilled that you've found happiness again.

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Good for you! I was asked out by someone 12 years younger, flattering but I couldn't get over the youngin hump. I'm glad it's working out for you. :)

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