Ayla Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 (edited) The guy I like and I have been spending a fair bit of time together, up until the beginning of this week - when I feel he has freaked out, and is pulling back a little. We dated at the beginning of the year, but I ended it with him then as he was not ready for a relationship. We have been hanging out as friends for the last 3 months and as a little more than friends in the last month or so. He is also coming on a holiday with my brother and I to see my parents overseas, (he is a good friend of my brothers). As he has been pulling back a little, I have also cooled off as I am conscious of freaking him out further....but I am also freaking out. His ex of 10 years cheated on him and they split 1.5 years ago. His pet name for me is Slacko and mine for him is Slackarse (inside joke), teasing and bagging each other is quite common in our relationship. As a bit of further background to my post - I ahve had some friends really let me down in the last few months, one example - a friend and I arranged dinner, and 2 days before we were meant to do have dinner I emailed her to confirm. She did not reply, then I sent her another email the day before - again no reply. I was really hurt by this, as I think it is the height of rudeness. The guy I like knows all about this, and how I felt. Anyway - tonight I text him asking him if he would like to go to a movie tomorrow night, as I need to get away from all the paperwork (I work from home atm). I didn't hear from him, but he did write something on my facebook page. So about 2 hours after sending the initial text, I text him again saying: "I'll take that as a no. No worries, just let me know next time Slackarse." He replied almost immediately with: "Sorry, I had a visitor you nut job....I have soccer tomorrow night...Now take off my van halen tshirt before you jinx the band and they break up" (referring to the ex girlfriend Linda in The Wedding Singer) I replied with a sorry, and blame it on the unreliable friend. Then asked if he was implying I was Linda or if he was showing off his movie quote skills....and have had no reply. I am starting to freak out that he really thinks I am phsycho based on this message...I am also aware that he may just be teasing me (as mentioned earlier is quite common). Given how well things have been going, and how much I like him - I am really worried I stuffed things. I'm trying to tell myself that if that really was the case, he probably wouldn't have replied at all. I'm so stupid! Thoughts - please. Edited August 31, 2011 by Ayla
Author Ayla Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 And ive just realised that I referred to my friend by name in the text (but didn't clarify who she was) and her name is the same as his daughters! I'm not sure he will know I wasn't referring to his daughter. I'm such an idiot!!
Professor X Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Take a deep breath and relax. I personally think you're overreacting so just sit tight and wait.
Author Ayla Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 I hope your right. I'm really freaking out. I spoke with my brother, and he said the same thing, but suggested I clarify the name thing-so I've done that. Now I'm just going to wait to hear from him. Which I'm sure I will. I'll just leave it up to him. Knowing me, and knowing what this guy means to me...I'm not going to sleep much tonight. As I write this, I'm crying-that's how much I'm freaking out.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I dont think you stuffed it, but if he doesnt like you enough to tell you before the two hour mark that he had plans, then things havent been looking good for a while. I could be wrong, but it looks like hes cooling off even more.
Professor X Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I hope your right. I'm really freaking out. I spoke with my brother, and he said the same thing, but suggested I clarify the name thing-so I've done that. Now I'm just going to wait to hear from him. Which I'm sure I will. I'll just leave it up to him. Knowing me, and knowing what this guy means to me...I'm not going to sleep much tonight. As I write this, I'm crying-that's how much I'm freaking out. Is there something you can do to relax? I personally find that listening to music clams me down. Or maybe go shopping with friends? Just do anything not to cry...
Author Ayla Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 It's midnight here, so I'm afraid distractions are minimal. I've done what I can do - if he is freaking out-then i might have pushed him further away-and that scares the ***** out of me, as things were going well (too well). I've also just disabled my Facebook account for a but, as it is causing some problems. My brother thinks things will be fine, so I will just have to wait and see. All I know is I feel really sad right now. I don't want to lose him as a friend, let alone as the guy I like. I know it's all worst case scenario, and I could be reading into it, but I can't help but worry, given how close we have become.
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