P&R Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 (edited) This is something that made me very annoyed tonight. My girl friends mom is having minor surgery tomorrow. She cancelled our plans so she could be there for her mom. (FYI her cancelling her plans is not what is annoying me, I would be a heartless bastard if it was) I made sure to give her my condolences, and what not and even told her that I love her just to show her that I'm not upset that she cancelled, and to give her some comfort. I say this because I told her three times (I failed to communicate this properly two times) that we weren't seeing each other enough. Before we had those talks we were only seeing each other 1 time a week for 3-4 hours. Now I feel she feels sheepish about cancelling anything with me. Lately she hasn't been contacting me much outside of when we see each other. Aside from goodnights I don't usually get any text (we primarily communicate through text since we both hate talking on the phone) even when I send her them.(I don't text her much anyways) This is not normal, and this has been going on for two weeks... before her mom needed this surgery. Her lack of contact happened after I went to visit my family that lives in another state. When I see her she is more affectionate then she was before I went away... so everything is pretty good. She still text me good night but none of the cutsie stuff, or even how my day went. When I see her she seems excited about seeing me, eager to know how my days have went, and she seems like she's loving her relationship with me. When I try to contact her on the days I don't see her she doesn't really reply or really send me anything other than good night text. (I don't even really text her much in the first place.) The thing that spurred me to make this thread is tonight when I told her I loved her via text. She wrote me back "you too". For some reason that REALLY annoyed me. I would have prefered if she didn't reciprocate my I love you through text. Instead I got a half-assed YOU TOO! WHO DOES THAT?? This is really annoying me! If you're going to say that you love me at least type type out LUV U 2. She's an English major, YOU TOO doesn't even make grammatical sense in context. I wasn't even annoyed by her lack of contact in between days I saw her... until she just typed out YOU TOO! That is the most half-assed I love you I've ever seen.... AGAIN WHO DOES THAT? She isn't one of those I LUV U GURL TEXTERS EITHER! Sorry I just needed to rant. For some reason that is getting on my nerves... Edited August 31, 2011 by P&R
Emilia Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Maybe she tried to put a 'heart' character in before 'you too' and it didn't come through properly. It's bothering you because you are not getting enough attention in this relationship and you are not having your emotional needs fulfilled. You will need to decide soon whether the two of you are compatible long term.
Author P&R Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 (edited) Maybe she tried to put a 'heart' character in before 'you too' and it didn't come through properly. It's bothering you because you are not getting enough attention in this relationship and you are not having your emotional needs fulfilled. You will need to decide soon whether the two of you are compatible long term. I'm having my emotional needs fulfilled. I just find it strange that her contact habbits have completely changed so suddenly. It's a bit annoying that she can't even type out "I love you" on her nice keypad. She doesn't use faces, or shapes when she text's anyways. Her texting is usually grammatically correct. In general we are compatible in most ways. There are a few things I wish were different, but I'm sure everyone thinks that way about our SO. Nobody is 100% compatible, we all have our differences. I'm sure if our relationship advances to the next level then my biggest issue with her should be worked out. Edited August 31, 2011 by P&R
Kendal Pierce Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 This is really annoying me! If you're going to say that you love me at least type type out LUV U 2. She's an English major, YOU TOO doesn't even make grammatical sense in context. I wasn't even annoyed by her lack of contact in between days I saw her... until she just typed out YOU TOO! That is the most half-assed I love you I've ever seen.... AGAIN WHO DOES THAT? She isn't one of those I LUV U GURL TEXTERS EITHER! Sorry I just needed to rant. For some reason that is getting on my nerves... I must say that I understand where you are indeed coming from. I can't blame you for feeling that way, but try to be more understanding and give her the benefit of the doubt. It is possible that she is in a hurry that very moment and really had no time to type the complete text of the phrase and instead cut-short the message, hence you received it in that manner. I mean don't put so much emphasis on minor things and try expanding what your eyes can see. It is better to understand someone you really love than to be the one who needs to be understood.
Emilia Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I'm having my emotional needs fulfilled. I just find it strange that her contact habbits have completely changed so suddenly. It's a bit annoying that she can't even type out "I love you" on her nice keypad. She doesn't use faces, or shapes when she text's anyways. Her texting is usually grammatically correct. In general we are compatible in most ways. There are a few things I wish were different, but I'm sure everyone thinks that way about our SO. Nobody is 100% compatible, we all have our differences. I'm sure if our relationship advances to the next level then my biggest issue with her should be worked out. Have they changed suddenly though? Have you been together for long? Maybe this is how she is and she was making more of an effort initially?
daphne Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 What's bugging me here, is that you TEXTED her that you love her. Seriously. If you're nervous about saying it, how about saying it over the phone if you can't do it face to face. You're not going to get any real information from text on how she feels. You lose all nuance.
Author P&R Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 (edited) Have they changed suddenly though? Have you been together for long? Maybe this is how she is and she was making more of an effort initially? We have been together for about 1 year now. Like I said... She's more excited about me than ever when we're together. When we're apart she seems a little distant. The longer we go without seeing each other... the less contact we seem to have with each other. (she text me less and less) Daphine: I'm not nervous about saying that I love her. I just said it through text because that is how we communicate outside of the days we see each other. We both do not like talking on the phone. I understand the "losing the nuiance". It just irks me that she couldn't even complete the sentence. "Me too" does not even contain the word love, and it is as lazy, and half-assed as an I love you gets. I know for a fact that she wasn't very busy. God... I just realized how stupid I sound for being annoyed by this. A STUPID *text* Edited September 1, 2011 by P&R
joeyanna Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 Maybe she's going through a hard time right now, I tend to back off and not want to tell someone I love them (or anything that would show an emotional attachment) if I'm going through a rough patch and possibly unsure about how I feel, but I do explain once I feel able. Does she usually tell you that she loves you? Some people just aren't good about expressing how they feel.
Author P&R Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 Maybe she's going through a hard time right now, I tend to back off and not want to tell someone I love them (or anything that would show an emotional attachment) if I'm going through a rough patch and possibly unsure about how I feel, but I do explain once I feel able. Does she usually tell you that she loves you? Some people just aren't good about expressing how they feel. As early as last Sunday she was telling me how much she loved me when we were together..... As I said... I would have prefered if she didn't say anything rather than just saying "You too". It's STILL bugging the hell out of me.
joeyanna Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 As early as last Sunday she was telling me how much she loved me when we were together..... As I said... I would have prefered if she didn't say anything rather than just saying "You too". It's STILL bugging the hell out of me. I know, its frustrating and she probably doesn't even realise its upset you so much. But if she said it in person then does it really matter if she didn't say it in a text? She said it on Sunday and unless something had drastically changed now, she still loves you. Don't worry about it so much!
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 I would honestly be concerned that she is not returning your texts at times. Also, drop in contact if she isn't busy or something is strange. The "you too" text is not a big deal by itself.
ja123 Posted September 1, 2011 Posted September 1, 2011 What's bugging me here, is that you TEXTED her that you love her. Seriously. If you're nervous about saying it, how about saying it over the phone if you can't do it face to face. You're not going to get any real information from text on how she feels. You lose all nuance. Yes, call her and tell her so. You know I don't get it these days. Everyone texts or says I'll see you online rather than call - even people in my age group. I find it so impersonal. It's no way to build relationships.
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