LauraSp Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Me and my ex broke up about a month ago and I've been getting lots of mixed signals from him. I initiated no contact straight away. In the first few weeks after we split I was told by mutual friends that he had been asking about me and said that he still loved and misses me. Whenever we happened to be in the same place I would be polite and say 'hi', 'how are you?' etc and then move away but he kept constantly glancing over at me. I spoke to him properly for the first time last week when I ran into him at a pub and he was a bit clingy, he suddenly decided he wanted to stay sitting with me rather than others. He steered the conversation towards a few things that contributed to the breakup, hugged me a few times and tried to hold my hand at one point. He also said that he would like to meet up with me soon which we did do the other day. Since that day last week he has been different, still talking to me but in a more casual way. Although I did find out that he's been talking about memories of me to his family [his mum brought up something funny that I did a while ago and said that he mentioned it] He has also been kind of flirty with another girl but I know she's not really his type personality wise, she's attractive but a bit thick to put it bluntly. However he has still been glancing over at me quite a lot. I saw him tonight and he started talking to me, asked me how I was etc. One of the first things he mentioned was that he'd been hanging out today with the girl he's been flirty with. I'm not really sure if he was just making small talk or if he deliberatly brought it up to make me jealous. He talked to me like a good friend for the rest of the night and gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek when I left. I'm slightly confused to say the least and would really like to know where I stand with him... Thank you for your hrlp, I'll update you later... Meanwhile, i'd like to share this blog with you - http://newmywhymenleavesite.com
TheDovic Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Even if he broke up with you it is very unlikely he has fallen out of love with you completely, and as I imagine you spent a lot of time together (as most couples do) he will obviously miss your company. Therefore telling mutual friends he still loves and misses you is completely understandable and may not mean he wants to reconcile. On a more positive note there are some signals which suggest he could might still be interested. Glancing at you constantly might suggest attraction, and he wanted to stay with you during the night out where you seen him. Although it might also suggest he is just comfortable with you. I think a really positive point you made is that he brought up the break up and why it happened. From all I have read since my break up this is seen as a good sign the dumper could be open to resolving the issues which led to the split. I wouldn't be too worried about him being casual at times. He broke up with you for a reason, so although he might be interested in getting back with you, logically he will be concerned about what had went wrong in the relationship so he will blow hot and cold like this. It is very common. I think it is up to you to try and explain to him how things will be different in the future IF HE brings up the subject of why you broke up again. Maybe this will help ease any concerns he has. Finally, I'm not sure why he has been talking about other girl. He may be trying to provoke a reaction because I can't what else he could get out of telling you something like this. Hope this helps
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