isobella Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 My boy has not talked to me since last week. We quarreled before for I had installed a porn filter on his PC. I did it for his benefit for I wanted to protect him from the pornographic movies, violent games and other dangers. But he just couldn’t understand me. Maybe I should install the keylogger after his permission. Or I should contact with him before. Now, I don’t know how to get his forgiveness for he didn’t talk to me now. What can I do?
Author isobella Posted September 1, 2011 Author Posted September 1, 2011 (edited) He is 14 years old. Edited September 1, 2011 by isobella
DaisyLeigh Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 I would take the computer away completely if he doesn't stop the nonsense. He is not an adult. He is a child and as his parent, you don't have to ask forgiveness for protecting him. If he wants to porn surf the net, he can do it when he is an adult, living on his own and paying his own bills. You say he doesn't understand you. Well, of COURSE he understands you. He is merely throwing a temper tantrum because he is not getting his way. I say enjoy the silence.
Tayla Posted September 3, 2011 Posted September 3, 2011 I am ever so relieved that no one posted the ole line used so often when being dismissive of this type of behavior "Ohh boys will be boys".... Since we are quite aware of online predators from the news , it goes without saying that voyeurism is alive and well for folks of various ages. So long as your House rules stay in affact I think you are being a responsible parent. BTw, welcome to the board, sorry it had to be a post of this nature yet it sure does bring up some food for thought in how parents view such in this day and age. How much open discussion have you had on this curiousity being portrayed? Or is it more of an obsessive nature?
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Avery Posted September 5, 2011 Posted September 5, 2011 He is 14 yo, why are you apologizing to him? Internet privelages are a PRIVELAGE, not a RIGHT. Now would be a time to have a frank discussion with him about women and sex and his views of them. Perhaps have him write a report on teenage sex and std's. And, no. You do not need his "permission" to put a keylogger on. He is the CHILD, you are the ADULT. I'm concerned that you are letting him manipulate you... May I ask what his father has to say about all this?
Author isobella Posted September 14, 2011 Author Posted September 14, 2011 He is 14 yo, why are you apologizing to him? Internet privelages are a PRIVELAGE, not a RIGHT. Now would be a time to have a frank discussion with him about women and sex and his views of them. Perhaps have him write a report on teenage sex and std's. And, no. You do not need his "permission" to put a keylogger on. He is the CHILD, you are the ADULT. I'm concerned that you are letting him manipulate you... May I ask what his father has to say about all this? Thanks for your suggestion, I have discussed it with his father, and David(my husband) agreed to install a porn filter on his PC. I guess it's better for david to talk about the sex with him.
turnera Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 No, it's better for BOTH of you to talk to him about sex and porn and respecting women. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop thinking that you have to get him to be happy. Your job is to raise a healthy, respectful, responsible young man. Your job is NOT to make sure this CHILD gets everything he wants. That is harmful. Nobody benefits when they get everything they want. They grow up spoiled, entitled, and expecting the world to give them everything they want just like thier parents did. And then they fall flat on their face, once they get out in the real world, because they ACT like they expect everything and the REAL world tells them to take a flying leap. They end up homeless, jobless, and mad at the world, instead of looking at themselves.
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