njruns75 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Ok so the guy I met 3 weeks ago is 30 and this sounds silly, but every single time he comments on my facebook status or posts something it is negative! He doesn't reply to many other of his friend's posts (he has 1000 friends) but he comments on mine and it's always something stupid or knocking what I said! It's stupid comments, but still... I wonder why he's so negative all time time. LIke if i post a song, he'll say "that song sucks." Or tonight I said I liked a food and he said "no way, it's so blah" then I posted a pic of a lobster on my trip we had and he said "that looks overcooked." just silly stuff like that. Is this guy just trying to make me believe he is a jerk so I'll back away? I don't get it.
somedude81 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Is this guy just trying to make me believe he is a jerk so I'll back away? I don't get it. How is he making you feel?
Author njruns75 Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 Well, he is making ME feel like a jerk by posting stuff like this. This wkend also he posts "you're on here all the time!!!" which made me feel stupid. I don't get it. Should I call him out on this? So strange. I feel like he may like me since he takes the time out to reply to ONLY my posts but... weird.
Cypress25 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Some people have no sense of humor and they think insulting people is funny. They don't understand the role that wit plays in making people laugh. If it's not clever, it's not funny. Clearly, this guy doesn't understand that.
Author njruns75 Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 I guess I'm wondering if he's trying to act like a jerk in order to keep a girl, or something, or if he's sick of the nice guys finish last thing that may not have worked out so well for him in the past... He's not by any means a really great looking guy. I mean, I was not attracted to him at first until I got to know him a bit more. I thought maybe I was too good for him.
Author njruns75 Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 when i called him out on it once he said he was only "teasing me" i mean, if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say it at all, right?
Cypress25 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Yeah, he thinks he's being funny. No sense of humor would be a deal-breaker for me.
liveinharmony Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 LOL this one really is a no brainer. Isnt it obvious he really likes you. Its no different to someone stumbling and saying something stupid to a girl he likes.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Ok so the guy I met 3 weeks ago is 30 and this sounds silly, but every single time he comments on my facebook status or posts something it is negative! He doesn't reply to many other of his friend's posts (he has 1000 friends) but he comments on mine and it's always something stupid or knocking what I said! It's stupid comments, but still... I wonder why he's so negative all time time. LIke if i post a song, he'll say "that song sucks." Or tonight I said I liked a food and he said "no way, it's so blah" then I posted a pic of a lobster on my trip we had and he said "that looks overcooked." just silly stuff like that. Is this guy just trying to make me believe he is a jerk so I'll back away? I don't get it. Being mean to you puts this guy NEARER to you than he is otherwise getting. Observe as much and then decide (if you haven't already) whether you'd want anything to do with him. You mention all of HIS comments/posts... but none of your own to him. He wants your attention, and to beat you over the head with (stupidity and cruelty) gets him more of your attention than he would get were you silent to him, and he silent to you.
rafallus Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 He probably heard of this whole "nice guy vs bad boy" thing very recently and is actively trying to sway to the other side.
grkBoy Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 when i called him out on it once he said he was only "teasing me" i mean, if you have nothing nice to say, then don't say it at all, right? Tell him you don't like it...if he persists then dump him.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Um, sounds like a manchild. Probably not the type of person you want to be with.
Emilia Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 He probably heard of this whole "nice guy vs bad boy" thing very recently and is actively trying to sway to the other side. Seriously though, he is either just a draining, negative, neurotic person or a complete moron
Citizen Erased Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Delete him from facebook. If he doesn't like you, he's just a plain moron/jerk. If he does like you, he's still a moron/jerk and he's also very immature, not somebody I would suggest dating. I guess guys like this never noticed that all they got was a kick in the shins when they did this crap in primary school.
madjac74 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Well, he is making ME feel like a jerk by posting stuff like this. This wkend also he posts "you're on here all the time!!!" which made me feel stupid. I don't get it. Should I call him out on this? So strange. I feel like he may like me since he takes the time out to reply to ONLY my posts but... weird. If he knows you are on Facebook all the time and he only replies to your posts then he is slightly stalkerish. He probably does like you and his comments are probably an attempt to be witty but he may just be a socially awkward person and come across as dorky and mean. In my experience the people that have 1000 "friends" are usually ones who lack self confidence and feel the need to prove something to people by racking up as many "friends" as they can...99% of them likely don't give a crap about him.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Well, nothing wrong with being on Facebook. I enjoy it quite a bit. Sounds like he's trying to get you wound up enough to notice him. He likely has self esteem issues.
Author njruns75 Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 OHHH Thanks. I should also add that when I first met him, he chased me down a bit.. texted a lot, but I blew him off a bit. Then, I gave him a shot and met him out. I made it apparent I liked him by being close with him and since then (last Wed) he has not contacted much and only contacts with the STUPID facebook comments. I do'nt know if this is a game, or what. But I'm 36. he is actually 29 still ... Just strange. You'd think his rare comments on fb would be something sweet to get me to notice him?!
Feelin Frisky Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 njruns, he probably thinks he's teasing you in an endearing was. If he didn't like you, he would ignore you. But I don't think this is a guy you WANT to keep "liking" you in his quirky way. He's nervous and he plays that off by trying to seem more superior or powerful than he actually is. He's made a nuisance of himself from what I can tell. If you are not interested in him at all, ask him to cease. If he doesn't, tell him he is not welcome, won't be and to fu_k off for good. Good luck.
GivenUp0083 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Some attention (even if it's negative) is better than no attention. If a man teases you, either you really really bother him, or it's his way of trying to interact with you.
EnigmaticClarity Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Some attention (even if it's negative) is better than no attention. If a man teases you, either you really really bother him, or it's his way of trying to interact with you. He's already said he was teasing, so clearly he thinks he's flirting. If you like him and enjoy teasing at all, point out how vanilla his sarcastic remarks are in an attempt to inspire him to increase their cleverness. If you detest teasing and sarcasm, I guess you won't like him much. I'd always assume something like this is sarcasm intended to be funny until the person shows me otherwise--NOT seeing things that way is at least a partial lack of a sense of humor. Tone is difficult or impossible to relate online with the simple text and no emoticons/smilies that Facebook allows, which is why I make sure my Facebook sarcasm is EXTRA-wet, dry sarcasm really kills people on Facebook. The sense of humor prevalent in chat forums like these and most others around the Internet always seems to be lacking with the average Facebook user...there's a serious humor vacuum there when you try to be funny, people assume by default you're being mean. That's the main thing I don't like about Facebook, people seem very dry and unwilling to show much of themselves there. I suppose it's because it's linked to THEM, whereas in a forum like this, people feel freer because their identity is hidden.
serial muse Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I suspect he's negging you. A jerky thing to do, IMO. Ignoring him is probably the best way to deal with it. You could also unfriend him.
serial muse Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I just read your other thread. Seriously, unfriend this guy. He's a jerk.
Zaphod B Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I'm with njruns75 on this one. Seems he is "being mean to keep you keen". Or at least that's what he's trying to do, but he may be having the opposite effect. So it may be that he really likes you.
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