foolishgurl Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 so here goes my story: I met a guy on one of the game app on iphone, we started to talk and met i person everything was going great.After about 1 month of seriously dating this guy, I found out he has another gf on which he met on the same game app . I was devastated when i found out, the woman is married ans has kids . I loved this guy so much so i decided its ok for him to keep this other woman cuz she lives far anyways , so I agreed w d arrangement, see how fool I was? SO short story he had me and this cyber gf at d same time. That went on for about 4 months , I knew they were together but the girl d doesnt know about me. Anyways I was happy cuz they broke up about 1 month They split up.. so I was like yayy finally i can have him all to my self. This guy i dated for 4 months i would see him at least once a week , and spend the entire day. I helped him little bit on money, give him simple gifts like shoes and shirts and stuff. Anyways about 1 week ago i found out he was seeing another woman and she lives really close to him an d girl told me they will spend nights together?? we finally broke up and im in deep unimaginable pain:( he also met this girl on d same game app and met her in person and going out w her for 1 month now . short story when i confronted him. he chose to be with this new girl and dumped me .He was mad cuz i showed all the convo w d girl , and d stupid girl still didnt believe me she thought im a psycho ex of him. How do u deal w this pain when now i realized this guy never really loved me but only used me for sex and money i guess.Now they are so happy together and Im left w a broken heart
ConfusedT Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 honey, your story is similar to mine. i was with him for almost a year and he had the "other woman" on the side the entire time. it was his FWB chic that he had before me. I wouldn't say either of us got used per se, but definitely our emotions did. They lied and betrayed us and WE never deserved this! They don't deserve us! Immediately GO NC and do NOT contact or talk to this crappy excuse of a man again. A liar is a liar is a liar!!!
magnus mateo Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I have to be honest with you... You brought it on yourself by allowing your boyfriend to have another girlfriend. That was you telling him that you are ok with him having other girlfriends. That was a huge mistake. Learn from this. Commit to someone who is going to commit to you. Hope this helps. Good luck!
Flyingdream Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 There is no pain worse than betrayal by someone you really love. Honestly, I wish she would have took 45 cal. pistol and shot me few times instead of this. I can get the bullets removed at the hospital and be pain free in a month or so. We were in in love for 8 years and engaged. She was on med's for depression and a Borderline Personality Disorder condition. I knew all along of her mental condition and went to her phys. and support groups with her. On med's she was balanced and sane. She was so creative, a musician with her own CD out, an wonderful inspiring artist, interior decorator, master gardener etc. She had a gift of just standing back and looking at an area, a room, garden whatever and then seeing in her mind a work of art to create. We felt like the perfect team, always helped each other when one of us was down. I'd fix her car and she helped with the kids (I am a single dad). We Touched and caressed each other. We never went a half hour without hugging or saying "I love you" anytime we spent together. Made love 10X better then anyone in my life. For 8 years we spoke of how our relationship was meant to be, a gift from God. We were grateful to have such a deep passionate love gift to share. I could go on and on all night. I have been in love before. I was married for 18 years, then divorced, I have been around the block with love, I'm no newbie to a loving relationship. She listened to a health talk show on the radio that said not to take medication because it blocks your body from assimilating nutrients. So she abruptly, I mean in 1 day, dropped all 3 Med's she was on! You are never supposed to stop antidepressants, adhd med's etc. without slowly tapering off of them. Against her doctors advice she stopped them all quickly. My heart broke more every day as I watched her go crazy. One day she told me "She had a vision that I was Darth Vader!!! Darth Vader?? That's pretty bad. I stuck with her for about 4 months assuming she would see how bad she was getting without her Med's and go back to her doctor. It never happened. She got lost in the fog of delusion after delusion. She was paranoid I would cheat on her even though I never did. I had at least 5 women offer me sex while we dated and I turned all of them down. I loved HER, only HER with the deepest love I could ever imagine. Then came the BIG BOMB! She found a guy that looks exactly like me but he is 20 years younger. Oh, one little problem. He is happily married and lives with his wife and kids. Every day I say to myself a hundred times. "What the hell happened"? This guy is her supervisor on night shift and she gives him oral sex in an office at work and then he just goes home to his wife! I talked to her 5 times about about how crazy this is and you really need to get medication and get back on track. Now she knows I know all about her insanely promiscuous sex affair after she laid the "lets be friends" BS on me and she is too ashamed to show her face around me. We see eachother in town and she quickly dissappears somewhere. She never returns my messages. We have broken up a few times in our 8 years and always kept in touch and talked so nobody's feelings got hurt. Not this time. I know she is out of balance, maybe you could even say insane, but that does not stop the pain in my heart. Logic and trying to forgive her because she is so lost is not working for me this time. It has been 6 weeks since she made her goofy decision to leave a love to be the slut Mistress in a dark office in a run down production facility. For me this is the biggest insult. To find someone who looks just like me but half her age, married and obviously using her is unbelievable! He is not going to leave his 28 year old wife for a 56 year old lady! She is his temporary sex kitten and she feels bad but continues with it every day. I have lost girls I loved before but never to someone else. Never in my worst night mares could I have thought she would go down this route. One minute I say "I hate that bitch" the next minuite I feel the great loss and I miss her terribly. I keep remembering all the wonderful time we spent together and how she became the "Mom" to my 2 teenage daughters. We were family. She was family. Now she's on her knees like a Pig with a cheater who sounds abusive to me. I think I say "I hate Her" to try to make myself not love her. Try to stop the pain for a few seconds while I say those words. Every other time I lost a love I recovered in about 6 weeks and started dating. This time I feel like my heart is not healing at all. It hurts as much now as the first day she left. If I let go of my fighting Irish pride I have to be honest with myself. I still love her with a deep, deep passion and my heart is torn to shreds. Sure, I can stick my chest out and act tough, like I don';t care and that is what I do when I see her. The truth is I love her so much I have not gone one minute without having her on my mind. My kids miss her too. Imagine me trying to explain this to them! SIX WEEKS AND THE PAIN WON'T STOP! Is my damn heart gonna hurt forever? I want to beat the crap out of this young punk but it won't help. She did it. Not him. So I walk with a tiny piece of heart left and wait for a day I can feel some relief without yelling "I hate her". My trust is trashed for now. I can't even date now because I see her in my mind constantly. I had sex with a girl (a one nighter) to see if it would help me. It did not do a thing. The pain goes on, man, the disbelief that a girl I lived with and thought I knew would make such stupid choices. Now I'm the one lost in the fog. I certainly know what your going thru and I know how you hurt. I hope your doing better than me. If not then I will send my love to you. From a fellow betrayed soul to another. Somehow we will survive. Love, Don
Kendal Pierce Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Hello, I am so sorry to hear about your story and what had happened to this "relationship" you had with this guy. But I need to be honest with you as well, you actually gave this guy the consent to do it all to you. The moment that you agreed that is okay with you that he has another girl other than you, you at the same time are telling him giving him permission to do to you whatever he pleases. And I am not at all surprised by what he did to you. You had it coming at the start. Lesson learned, respect yourself if you want guys to have respect on you. When you engage yourself in a relationship, make it a point that there are no conditions you need to take. And that this relationship will be just between you and this guy, other than that there should be nothing else. I wish you well and please move on.
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