Joobi Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Why do the OW take so much rap for man stealing. I fell in love with a man who's wife was living in another country and had a child by another man. He told me it was over. In my country it takes 2 years separation for a 'no fault' divorce. I know this because I went through this myself. In any case, I know people say wait for the decree nisi, but it's hard when you find a connection to want to wait 2 years minimum. Well naturally it all blew up in my face. Wifey turned up and claimed what was hers. Frankly I'm most disgusted with hers- (boyfriend and child and then laying claim to husband) and his (lying, cowardice etc) behaviour. To a certain extent I'm also ashamed of myself. Basically, i'm interested in any and all comments on this as I would like to learn as much as possible from the experience.
Owl Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Not clear in your post...so are they reconciling at this point?
whichwayisup Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Why do the OW take so much rap for man stealing. I fell in love with a man who's wife was living in another country and had a child by another man. He told me it was over. In my country it takes 2 years separation for a 'no fault' divorce. I know this because I went through this myself. In any case, I know people say wait for the decree nisi, but it's hard when you find a connection to want to wait 2 years minimum. Well naturally it all blew up in my face. Wifey turned up and claimed what was hers. Frankly I'm most disgusted with hers- (boyfriend and child and then laying claim to husband) and his (lying, cowardice etc) behaviour. To a certain extent I'm also ashamed of myself. Basically, i'm interested in any and all comments on this as I would like to learn as much as possible from the experience. Don't be pissed at "wifey" (how insulting, btw) be angry at HIM since he is the one you're having the A with and HE is the one who chose to go back home, willingly. He didn't have to end it with you, he could have told her divorce time and then he'd be all yours. But, he didn't. For whatever reason, it's valid to him, maybe not to you. Obviously he isn't done with his marriage and his wife.
woinlove Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Why do the OW take so much rap for man stealing. I fell in love with a man who's wife was living in another country and had a child by another man. He told me it was over. In my country it takes 2 years separation for a 'no fault' divorce. I know this because I went through this myself. In any case, I know people say wait for the decree nisi, but it's hard when you find a connection to want to wait 2 years minimum. Well naturally it all blew up in my face. Wifey turned up and claimed what was hers. Frankly I'm most disgusted with hers- (boyfriend and child and then laying claim to husband) and his (lying, cowardice etc) behaviour. To a certain extent I'm also ashamed of myself. Basically, i'm interested in any and all comments on this as I would like to learn as much as possible from the experience. Yes, this language seems a big strange - besides the y tagged onto wife. Even adult master-slave relationships are typically voluntary and of the choosing of both partners. If MM was "claimed" by his wife, presumably he wanted to be claimed. What do you want? Do you want an exclusive R with him? If so, what does he say about that? Don't worry about "the rap" from others. Worry about how you feel about yourself, whether you are happy with your actions and words, how you are treating yourself and others, and if you are satisfied with your life. Your brief post hints that you are not happy being the OW, but it is not clear what you plan to do in order to be happier.
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