Jenna655 Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Hello, please help. I don't know how to get over this guy. I have known him for years and loved him. He expresses interest in me then recoils completely after I start to show my emotions to him. So I quit talking to him for months. We ended up getting back in touch and just talking over the phone..he even told me he wanted to go to Vegas with me. He told me he was sorry for acting like an ******* before. So I ended up finally meeting him again and all of my old feelings came back ten fold. I slept with him the first night after seeing him (I know, bad move!) and then he didn't call me for days!! It freaked me out, I started feeling hurt and insecure again -- how could he do this to me again after all the progress I had made letting him go? We talked on the phone finally after a few days .. he gave me excuses why he didn't call. I know for a fact he doesn't have or isn't seeing someone else. Well we sort of patched things up...then he still doesn't call me for days! Well, finally I completely freaked out and send him crazy texts letting everything out about how I felt. then of course I felt stupid, he texted me he wasn't mad...but still no effort on his part to see me. Finally, a few days ago he texts me asking me how a show was that he knew I was going too... I lost it again on texts and went into this crazy text ramble about how I felt and how could he have sex with me then never make a point to see me. he didn't respond until days later saying -- "I simply asked how was the show?" I text him back, I know and I'm sorry for going off in texts it just hurts my heart to go so long without seeing you. He has never contacted me since. It's been a week now. I know logically that I should let him go but I still have hope that he will call or try to see me again. How can I get over him? Should I try or should I just continue to text and/or call every now and then to remind him I still care? Did I scare him away for good? And...was I wrong to express my displeasure at him after having such high hopes after seeing him again and despite my mistake of sleeping with him too soon?!! I'm so hurt.
ConfusedT Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 (edited) yea, you freaked him out. GOOD THING IS (& this may sound harsh), he really doesnt sound all that interested anyways.. kinda back & forth. stick by NC, you did it before, you can do it again. DONT settle to be someones FWB when you want to be with them. Dont ever settle. We've all continued to settle for less than our worth and you are no different. Stand up, be strong and DO NOT contact him. He probably thinks youre irrational and emotional. Give yourself and him some space and time to heal and let him contact you. remember, if a man truly wants you, no matter how much time has passed (months +), nothing will ever keep him away! gl. Edited August 31, 2011 by ConfusedT forgot a word, lol
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