Try Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 Dear Calif Hope, Thank You this one of the most sensible posts I have seen. My wife & I have been talking about this everyday as you can imagine. Finally, last night we had a calm sensible talk about it. She is going to go. She is very convincing that that she needs a break from me, and she has spoken enough to him that she trusts him to be respectful and that she is prepared for any advance he might make to tell him firmly that it is not allowed & that they are only friends. Of course I am also worried about her safety, and I am going to need a leap of faith on this one as well. Thanks to all who have responded for the interesting ideas. Wow, so you are going to ignore everything most have said and what you know in your heart is going to happen and let her go. Even your children know what is going to happen and are watching you let her do it. She will sleep with another man as you sit at home knowing this and she even has you paying for it. You do not have any self respect so why should she respect you? What happens next is on you. Again, wow.
zsu234 Posted September 2, 2011 Posted September 2, 2011 This is a classic Hotwife/ Cuckold relationship where the beta-cuck sits at home while his alpha wife goes out on dates and bangs other guys. If this is what you want go for it, but nobody will respect you especially your Hotwife. Hell, even your own daughter is telling you to man up! WTF dude, have you no self respect? I would file for divorce and have a financial and legal scorched earth waiting for her when she got back.
Author stillinlove100 Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 zsu234 - thanks for making feel like ****...but I do understand. And, I do feel dis-respected BIG TIME!!! On the divorce front......one problem California law. No matter how unfair it is...and in this case...very, very unfair she gets half of everything & big alimony checks for a very long time. So the legal "scorched earth" is not really possible. Just not my style anyway.
fltc Posted September 6, 2011 Posted September 6, 2011 Finally, last night we had a calm sensible talk about it. She is going to go. She is very convincing that that she needs a break from me, and she has spoken enough to him that she trusts him to be respectful and that she is prepared for any advance he might make to tell him firmly that it is not allowed & that they are only friends. Of course I am also worried about her safety, and I am going to need a leap of faith on this one as well. No reason not to let her go, she's going to have an affair with this guy and if you don't let her go she's going to find an affair partner at home (if she hasn't already!) Sorry but it appears your wife is done with you and is seeking someone else.
seibert253 Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 So, is she home yet? If not, I hope you have a nice set of D papers for her, sitting on top of her items stacked neatly at the edge of the driveway. If my W did what yours did, I don't care what the cost, that's what she'd find on her return. At what cost is your dignity and respect.
Hanther Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Wow. You just blew your last chance at saving your marriage despite everything being spelled out for you by the people here. Sorry but you deserve what you get after this.
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