JohnEl Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 i had a friend tell me that me ex is officially dating someone else now. its only been two months since we broke up but she started dating him right after we broke up. he told me that they are official on facebook and taht really bothered me. how can she move on to another relationship so quickly? im hurting really bad right now. someone please give me something positive to think about! i want to call or text her and tell her how much i hate her. how can she leave me like this and not care at all.?
Nohbody Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 It doesn't matter. She did, but it doesn't affect you. She's gone. I know this is hard to accept. You have to get to a place where you are ok with that, and that will take time. Stop torturing yourself, and make sure your friends know not to talk about her to you. You don't need this BS, focus on yourself.
AvianChaos Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I know exactly how you feel, John. My ex dumped me and started dating a friend of mine shortly thereafter. Needless to say he is no longer my friend, and neither is she. And yea the official facebook thing is another stab in the heart, I dont use facebook but a friend of mine told me about it when the two of them decided to announce it to every g0ddamn person on facebook. It hurts even more knowing that she never did the official facebook thing when we were together. (even though it is really stupid) I always just think that it's really sad both of them are not my friends because of their actions. Not sad for me, but for them; they lost my friendship when they decided to get together. And when she dumps him (which she will), she wont have any business talking to you. By that time I'm sure you will have moved on. All the time you spent working on yourself, she spent on jumping straight into another relationship; never giving her any time to heal. You have a real opportunity to heal yourself; she denied herself that opportunity and never properly dealt with the break up just jumping from relationship to relationship. I know you're hurting, I am hurting too, just try to heal yourself and forget about her. She's gonna end up way more lost than you in the end.
betterdeal Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 John, why so many threads? I find it hard to keep track of what you're saying and that makes it hard to offer advice.
Author JohnEl Posted August 30, 2011 Author Posted August 30, 2011 John, why so many threads? I find it hard to keep track of what you're saying and that makes it hard to offer advice. sorry for so many threads. im losing my mind. ive never felt worse in my entire life than what i feel right now. im seriously on the verge of a major breakdown.
betterdeal Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I understand where you are coming from. Do yourself a BIG favour and go and see your doctor. See about anti-anxiety or sleeping medication. Do this as soon as possible. You need to sleep in order to function properly. This is important for your well-being. Will you do that?
Author JohnEl Posted August 30, 2011 Author Posted August 30, 2011 I understand where you are coming from. Do yourself a BIG favour and go and see your doctor. See about anti-anxiety or sleeping medication. Do this as soon as possible. You need to sleep in order to function properly. This is important for your well-being. Will you do that? i saw my doctor today and got some anti depressant meds. just started taking them today
Author JohnEl Posted August 30, 2011 Author Posted August 30, 2011 Good stuff. How's your sleep? i was sleeping okay for the last few weeks but i cant sleep at all right now. im feeling very anxious and angry. i feel like ive been having a panic attack all night.
betterdeal Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I'm going offline now, but will be back in an hour or two. If your sleep is disrupted, see you doctor about sleeping medication, or have a look into getting some Valerian extract (that's also good for anxiety). Tell your friends you do not want to know news about you ex. Don't use Facebook, or block her on it. Change your phone number or, at the very least, switch your phone off at night. Now you need to protect yourself, and doing these things will do that. No more news about her will help you. Speak to you later.
Buttercup84 Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 i was sleeping okay for the last few weeks but i cant sleep at all right now. im feeling very anxious and angry. i feel like ive been having a panic attack all night. Sadly it can take a few weeks for the meds to start.But you have made a brave step to get help.x
antinko Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 Perhaps start a journal. I know mine helped me a lot. I suggest this because you've started a lot of threads and they're somewhat disjointed. If you had one thread where you documented your thoughts, you'll be able to reflect upon them more easily and identify progress better.
CopingGal Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 John, I do Chigong, deep breathing, and I just starting doing meditation techniques. Also, self-help books so wonders!
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