lost in a dream Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Ive been married for 2 years now an i love my husband very much..rite before we got together i was in an abusive relationship. when my husband found me i was broken, my heart, an body he promised no matter what that i wuld not be hurt ever again one year into are relationship i found him lying about everything even stupid things an he seemed to lose intrest in our sex life..well as normal girls do i went snooping thru his phone an found that porn was a big part in his life and it hurt so badd to think i wasnt good enough for him he promised me he wuld never do it again well a couple weeks later i found him on a xxx site now all we do is fight i dont feel close to him at all i dont think i can forgive him he was suppose to protect an care for me i dont know what i should do ive tryed talking to him but i cant get my mind around forgiving him does anyone have any advise for me!!!
Hatu Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 Do you consider your husband watching porn as cheating on you? I feel you really need to sit down with your husband and tell him how him going to those websites makes you feel. Be brutally honest. I like 99% of other men have watched some porn in my day. For whatever reason I always went the website route. Well my girlfriend was going through my history in my browser on my PC at home and noticed a few things. She brought these up to me and they created a huge fight. She said that it made her feel not good enough for me. She felt like I was cheating on her with those videos. I didn't understand that at all at first, but eventually I realized how much that affected her self-esteem and guys don't realize that kind of thing. We don't know how that kind of stuff makes you feel until you tell us! As soon as I figured out how bad she was hurt by those things I stopped doing them. I quit going to the sites and I decided I wouldn't do it again as long as we were together and I never did. It wasn't even that hard. I'm not saying all guys will be able to do what I did but if you really love someone you will do many things to prove it and to show them you care by how you act. It was a simple decision for me.
Author lost in a dream Posted September 3, 2011 Author Posted September 3, 2011 yes i do feel as if he is cheating i just dont know where to start when i talk to him he just seems to ignore me anyway... i dont know if theres a way to get through to him or not..
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