NC work iF ???

[HeartBreak11]

5 months no contact here, ex shares some mutual friends, they were there for her during her break up. We know how each other are doing because of the mutual friends. I never bring my ex up but since my friends think I am doing so well (fake it until you make it), they talk enough about it where I know how she is doing (Which isn't that much). I am the dumpee and for the first time, I heard she was having a real hard time but now is doing better. I was told she hears the same thing about me (Which I never let to much info out about our breakup, just saying it was a good break up)

 

I honestly feel that I would be fine if there wasn't these mutual friends.

 

I know NC is to heal itself, I am doing great but these tid bits of info are bothersome

 

SUggestions?

[Nohbody]

Tell them not to talk about her around you. If they are real friends, they will honor that. If not.... find some new friends.

[fauxleather]

Well it depends on how much you wanna fake it till you make it, like you said.

 

Either you carry on faking it, which I think is a little bit unhealthy but if you can really do it that's really good in the long run since perspective is everything, then just carry on pretending to be alright. Otherwise, you should let your mutual friends know that you're actually not entirely over her yet and it would be good that they do not bring her up during your conversations.

 

I'm kinda in your situation as well, but I tell my closer friends not to bring her up as I'm comfortable with them knowing that I'm not entirely over her yet. But for the case of the other mutual friends, I'll just fake it and pretend I'm doing alright. No point appearing weak in front of people who you aren't entirely close to, you're not out looking for sympathy or anything anyway so it's best to project a strong and attractive image to others who aren't so close.