tom_gbr Posted May 5, 2004 Posted May 5, 2004 do i need to see a counsilor?...its been two months now that me and my ex have been apart and i think ive fallen out of love with her. but have i though?.i miss talking to her..i still think about her all the time and i try and think of other things but its not working. i went to the coast at the weekend to see a female friend of mine as sghe thought it would be a good idea for me to have a break and on the night i got back my ex texted me about it.....she said that she didnt car but i knew she did...i hadnt heard from her in over a week and she texted me the day i got back. i think we are both still hurting....i want to move on but im finding it so hard...do i need to see someone?
bluechocolate Posted May 5, 2004 Posted May 5, 2004 I wouldn't think you need to see a counsellor. As you described it sounds perfectly normal to me. Like the song says, "Breaking Up is Hard to Do". It takes time. I don't believe in maintaining contact with ex's because it makes the whole process that much longer and harder to deal with. I'm willing to bet that a counsellor will tell you to stop talking to this girl and to stop seeing her and to keep yourself busy. Ex-lovers can't just turn around and become friends like there is some kind of magic switch. Maybe one day you'll be able to be friends, but not as long as you still have these feelings for her. Do you feel this way about being separated from your platonic friends?
johan Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 Go see a couselor. It's not like it will hurt anything, unless you don't have insurance to cover it. Then it might hurt your savings. I would recommend it for anyone recovering from a breakup. After reading some of your other posts, I'd say that you're kind of obsessive about her. Not that that is unnatural. But it's better to get out of that state of mind as soon as possible, and a therapist might be the easiest way to go. You don't strike me as someone who has fallen out of love. Or I'm not sure what difference it makes. Seems like semantics, because there's some aspect of your relationship you haven't "fallen out of". Maybe a therapist can help you with it. Good luck!
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