amber1308 Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 i met a guy a year ago and it was perfect. we met at work and we immediatly clicked. i was seeing someone else at the time and called it off as soon as i met this new guy. we started dating after a few months of flirting and we took it slowly and went on dates every week. however somewhere between then and now it all went wrong. he moved out of the parental home and into a flat and we started spending a lot more time together, pretty much every night because he didnt like being alone in the flat. we had a few rows, mainly from my side when i felt that he just wasnt caring enough. it got to about april and my parents kicked me out for their own reasons and i went to live with him. he was ok with the situation but didnt really understand how upset i was with it. i became ill with severe stomach problems and have been really down and he hasnt really supported me. in june he went to glastonbury festival for 5 days. this is where i can pinpoint the problems stemming from. everytime ive thought about it before or after theres been an arugement. firstly the day before he left id planned to spent the day together but he hadnt prepered his stuff so we didnt do anything and i stayed in. then when he got there he announced he'd be home a day later. alarm bells starting rining as hes been know to take drugs at festivals (something im completely against) he rang me that night whilst drunk and god knows what else and told me he hated me and he didnt want to be with me. i then spent 4 days crying and went out on his last night there with my friends. i rang him whilst extremely drunk and out of anger and pain told him anything i could to hurt him just like he had done to me. he came home the next day and acted like nothing had happened. the whole festival situation repulses me and he told me disgusting stories which almost rubbed salt in the wound. i spent months trying to get over it but now i dont trust him to go out and im not sure if hes going to go next time eventhough he promised he wouldnt because he knew im not ok with it, but he knew that this time? it wa his birthday about a month ago and i went all out. i spent nearly a mon ths wages making sure he had a perfect day but it wasnt enough, a fgew days after he had his friends round, when i was particularly ill, and they all started to skin up in my front room. i asked them to leave and they proceeded to my garden. i said this wasnt good enough and couldnt they wait? they then left and smoked in my alleyway. on their return i told my boyfriend they couldnt come in as im completely against drugs. he proceeded to shout and scream at me. i began having panic attacks and was taken to the hospital by a friend, he didnt come. again he had been drinking. we always argue when he drinks and after the things he said to me at glastonbury i dont trust him anymore to drink, but he always wants to go out. its awful because its still a widespread talked about think in this country as the festival season isnt over and evrytime we hear about it, its awkward. his friends all hate me, after his birthday. i tried to get him to compromise by building it up again, first going out for a drink, then a few, and gradually a night out, and he promised he would but hes announced now that he wants to go out next weekend and that will use up the last off his money so we wont be doing anything on our week off from work together. we are due to sign the lease for a new flat tomorrow and i dont know what to do. im not even sure i love him anymore and i feel like hes keeping me prisoner sometimes. i just dont trust him to drink anymore but it seems all hes interested in. i dont know if ill ever be enough. please help.
OnyxSnowfall Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Hmm... ............. I suggest you find a way to leave him and to move out (definitely not into a new place with him). I could go on and on as to why, but at least from what you've written, your relationship is very unhealthy...... You should also find some kind of counseling / way to educate yourself about why you would put up with such a relationship and such treatment from a man, primarily so you don't find yourself back in and with another one that's like it.
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