arbrne_vet Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 It has been 1 1/2 days since i have gone NC. i have had enough. maybe..... i am slow at taking hints, or have been someone's back up plan. does not matter. if i have to come here every day, and say i have gone one more day NC, then i will. i will do this until i get tired of doing it, then i will know i have moved on. i need to heal. this is for me. time for MY wounds to heal, time for me to move on. 4 year relationship. proposed last year, and went to sh(@ ever since. don't know if she was seeing someone else, don't know if she was doing all this stupid stuff because she did not want to end it herself, don't know if she is just Fire trUCKED up in the head. but i don't really care anymore. if i hear from her, if i get a text, a phone call, my response is going to be, don't bother me anymore, i need to move on. or, am open to suggestions!
jenjen83 Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Currently on day 9 of NC. Only advice I have is to keep busy. Do all the things you didn't get to do during your relationship...hit the gym..watch films..anything you like as it really does help. Good luck and keep strong.
Author arbrne_vet Posted August 29, 2011 Author Posted August 29, 2011 thanks... will be keeping busy. i hit the gym every day. been hitting the gym for many years. going out on a boat this afternoon. i want her to call me, only so i can say it's over. i am sooooo freaking mad right now. don't know if i am mad at myself or what. all i know is i have been a fool long enough.
ConfusedT Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Good Job. I lost count of my NC. I am somewhere around 2 weeks or something. I heard the first few weeks-month are the worst and after that, it might still be hard, but it gets better. I am going through it, but it varies from day to day. Emotions come and go, just be strong and stick by your guns and it'll all work out for the best.
Seraph1 Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I went 7 months strict NC before my Ex came slithering out of the woodwork to ask for a second chance...which I have not taken! Yay me. The first month is the hardest and the three week point is a killer because it is when the height of loneliness hits you. You are strong enough to do this. Write up a pros and con list about the relationship and refer to the cons list whenever you feel weak and want to contact her. Stay busy and focus on the things that can make you happy. Rediscover old hobbies and find new ones.. All these are just suggestions to get you started in NC.
dontstopbelieving Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 I've been 29 days NC, this has been the toughest so far. Last week and this week I been wanting to reach out to him to tell him how I feel but I know I'm just going to hurt myself. It hurts to even think that he hasn't reached out to me or even checked how I been doing. I'm thankful for this site because it helps me find comfort and support through other people's comments. We are all going through this together. I wish you all the best and to stay strong. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger.
jay_mart Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 i can already feel it now..UGH.!! the pain..I'v been seperated for 4 months now..we decided to give eachother space..it was getting real intense emotionally..we both decided to make a move to illinois..was there for 5 years in a beautiful house together..but we were not happy there...well come to find out he cheated on me on a visit to california..where i am originally from..i found out and decided to leave..moving back home to california..he's cheated b4...he was already distant and i could not allow myself to except a relationship like that...well i left...we contacted eachother everyday...he would confess his love for me..and apologized for the pain he has caused me...well then i find out one of the women he met in california flew out to illinois to see him..i was only gone 2 months...well he told me it wasnt n.e thing like i think..blaa blaa...well he is unemployed and in our house all alone now...so come to find out the other day he is moving to california to live with that new women...mind u i found out from my neighbor...he denied it when i asked him if he was planning on moving...he sed he denied it cuz he didnt want to hert me n.e more than he has...all this time we have been talking about our issues and wanting to work them out..how he never loved n.e one this much..i cannot be replaiced..everything i want to hear..and he texts me saying..he will make his way to california to find me and make it up to me...how hes desperate to get out of illinois and how theres no opertunity in the small town we lived in.and he has to make drastic moves..that this girl is only helping him..but shes all over facebook sending him sex songs..so i guess he's moved on to a women who can benefit his depiration out the cituation..so he leaves with her in a week..i cant handle that..i havent stopped crying..i just learned of this news from him yesterday...so i am on my first day of NC...im gonna stick it out..i have to..i need to forget him...literally pushed me to the ground..just found this site and already i feel a little better to know im not alone in this..sorry for the long story..i needed to let that out..just so confused..
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