katie.x Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Now, I've just gone through a break up. As a result, a whole group of people just all started ignoring me and all bad mouth with no reason, I have removed all their facebooks and don't contact any of them at all. One of the people in the group however, I was good friends with, Eliza, and she stood by me through the break up and the aftermath. She called when I needed to talk to someone, she stood up to some of the people getting involved in my business and all that jazz. Long story short: Wednesday: My ex gets with the girl that pulled us apart. I stayed at a male friends house that night because I was fairly upset. Nothing happened. Friday: I go to lunch with Eliza, her idea to cheer me up. I mentioned I stayed at the guys house as he is a mutual friend. She mentioned she was bothered by her friends (all couples) wanting to go away for new years and she didn't because she is single and it bugged her everyone is pairing off and starting to just focus on their partners. We talked about my issues with my ex and after lunch she felt sick so we left. I text her when i got home to ask how she was and she replied she was feeling pretty ill. I text the guy that I stayed with on wed to ask when he had free time the following week. No reply. Sunday: Text the guy again asking why he didn't reply. Said he'd been asked by one of the people in the group who are ignoring me what happened that night, and didn't know why this person knew I had stayed over as he didn't tell anyone. I told him i'd told eliza but no one else. I text eliza asking why she would pass on that info to someone who openly hates me, no response. Find out she deleted my facebook. I text her asking why she wasn't talking to me, and if it was about that guy, that noting had happened and i didn't know why that would upset her anyway. She replied with she knew i had slept with him, and she was pissed because she knew my friend had previously liked him, and she was annoyed i had ignored her when she was upset. She then said she'd call during the week to talk. Thursday: I text her asking if she had time for a chat. No response. I sent a long apology text for ignoring her and that i guess she'd talk to me when she was ready. She replied that she had her own issues she was dealing with, she wasn't mad anymore and she'd call after the weekend. Tuesday: I text asking if she can possibly call the following day. No response. Monday (today): I text asking if we could chat up this week. No response. An hour later she posts on facebook from her phone. What the hell did I do to deserve to be straight up ignored after apologising repeatedly for upsetting her and for something I didn't actually do that she made an assumption about from someone who hates me?
Emilia Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 First of all, don't have conversations like this by text, always on the phone or in person. Secondly, I don't know what Eliza's relationship is with the others but it doesn't sound like you could trust her. Also, it is odd that your male friend was bothered about the whole situation, maybe he dislikes the drama or he isn't as good a friend as you hoped. There is obviously some politics going on in the background you might be too naive to understand or choose to ignore. You all sound very young and quite immature, there is a lot of tit for tat in your original post. You need to expand your circle of friends and get rid of this group completely. None of these guys sound much of a catch to be honest. As you get older, you will get better at judging others' character and decide whether they are strong or whether they are just weaklings that follow the herd.
stillafool Posted August 30, 2011 Posted August 30, 2011 First of all, stop texting these people and begging for a response. NC on all of them. Were you also friends with the girl who likes the guy that you spent the night with? If so, that was wrong. It is obvious that Eliza is talking behind your back to the others and she is not your friend. Stop begging them and find new people to hang out with.
Author katie.x Posted August 31, 2011 Author Posted August 31, 2011 I didn't want to text her but she just would not talk to me, and I didn't know why. I don't talk to any of these people anymore, believe me I can see exactly how immature and back stabbing they are. They are all 23-26 and they act like they are in school. The Eliza does not like this guy, and my friend doesn't either, she went on two dates but had no interest in him and that was 3 months ago. I feel very much like they are all just overing their own dramas by jumping on the 'I have a problem with katie too" band wagon. These people sleep with ex and friends, get into relationships with someone their best mate has liked for years, take sides with the majority instead of staying out of it or standing by whats right. I thought Eliza was different but clearly not. I'm actually glad I don't deal with these people anymore.
Emilia Posted August 31, 2011 Posted August 31, 2011 I didn't want to text her but she just would not talk to me, and I didn't know why. I don't talk to any of these people anymore, believe me I can see exactly how immature and back stabbing they are. They are all 23-26 and they act like they are in school. The Eliza does not like this guy, and my friend doesn't either, she went on two dates but had no interest in him and that was 3 months ago. I feel very much like they are all just overing their own dramas by jumping on the 'I have a problem with katie too" band wagon. These people sleep with ex and friends, get into relationships with someone their best mate has liked for years, take sides with the majority instead of staying out of it or standing by whats right. I thought Eliza was different but clearly not. I'm actually glad I don't deal with these people anymore. are they a drugs crowd? I've seen a lot of drama with those, a lot of unbalanced emotion and hopping into beds etc
The Outlaw Posted September 14, 2011 Posted September 14, 2011 Honestly, it's more her than it is you. If you keep calling/texting to no response, just stop doing it. If she's really not mad at you anymore, she should come around and call you back. Good luck
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