probablydwelling Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 My girlfriend of a year dumped me. I treated her kinda bad. Anyway about 2 weeks NC, I apologize to her, we meet up and have sex. Talking of rekindling occurs, then she says she can't do it. This happens a second time, then she says she can't, but she needs time to heal. So I'm back to NC getting over her (which was really hard after the two ex sex) and then I see this on this website reddit she made it blantantly obvious that it was her, and I knew it was. It made me feel terrible, and it was kinda her way of saying haha I'm over you, she knew I would read it. So I replied with this (If you don't wanna read it, it's just me obviously stating our situation and me saying I'm trying to get over you, and you're not letting me.) She then sent me a text saying "Please stop posting stories about us online" I am so confused like she's ****ing with my head to go see her again, or what. I'm not replying and giving her the satisfaction, she's trying to get me wired. But I do want her to know she's hurting the **** out of me, and I'd like her to stop. In the back of my mind I take negative attention from her as better than NO attention and it's killing me. I want to go along What to do?
WindWhisperer Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 She must know that she is hurting you. This back and forth thing is just making it worse for you. Have you considered eliminating no contact at all?
Author probablydwelling Posted August 29, 2011 Author Posted August 29, 2011 Why? Why is she purposely hurting me then? What do you mean eliminating no contact?
Space Ritual Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 She told you to stop posting stories because you busted her....people tend to get defensive even under the supposed anonymity of the internet when they get their whole spiel blown out of the water...lol Good Job by the way... Time honored tradition following a breakup is a race to be the "winner" in the end of the relationship....what you did was literally become the "turd in the punchbowl" and screwed it all up for her....she wanted to appear like she was a wounded animal and you just put forward your 2 cents and exposed her as a game player..... Best to go complete no contact....delete her from your life
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